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Title: Helping kids cope with seperation and divorce Author: Jocelyn Block Date Published: Nov 2012 Why Relevant and Summary: This article is a parents guide to supporting children during divorce. It describes the needs and expectations needed for healthy coping through divorce. Children need reassurance, stability, patience, and love even more during a divorce. Keeping these important staples intact will help the child deal with divorce. It discusses how kids are going to express their feelings and red flags for more serious problems developing due to divorce. How This Influenced My Thinking: I have always thought that no matter what the parents do the children involved in divorces will feel the repercussions and that there is nothing that parents can do to fix it. This false belief that I have had is untrue-many children that are provided stable,secure, and loving homes after divorce learn to cope and turn out to be just fine. But it is all dependent on the parents methods of making the divorce less traumatic for the child. Credibility of Source: Its credible- the authors are doctors.

Title: Children and Divorce Authors: Jocelyn Block, Gina Kemp, Melinda Smith, and Jeanne Segal Date Published: Nov, 2012 Why Relevant and Summary: This article was a wealth of information and advice about helping children through divorce. It was put in a clear concise way with explainations How This Influenced My Thinking: I was a child of divorce, but at an age where it wasn't as impactful. It was interesting to see what my parents did right and wrong. Credibility of Source: Written by MA's and a PhD-High

Title: Children and Divorce: Helping Kids Cope with Separation and Divorce Author: Jocelyn Block, M.A., Gina Kemp, M.A., Melinda Smith, M.A., and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D. Date Published: November 2012 Why Relevant and Summary: This article is very detailed with handling a divorce with children. The article gives detailed tips in how to help your children cope with a divorce. How This Influenced My Thinking:This helped me understand why it is need to focus on the children during a divorce proceeding and how divorce can effect a child. Credibility of Source: very reliable source the authors have M.A's and Ph.D's.

Title: Helping Your Child Through a Divorce Author: Michelle New, PhD Date Published: Updated 2011 Why Relevant and Summary: This site if very helpful because it gives several examples of how one can tell ones child that they are going through a divorce. It also goes through the different ages in children and how they might react to the divorce. Overall, this article is great for helping one cope with a divorce as well as ways to help your child cope with a divorce without making much damage. How this influenced my thinking: My parent are still together, so I was never exposed to any divorce issues, but I do remember having friends whose parents were divorced so I knew it was a hard process especially for my friends. Because I don't talk to my high school friends anymore, I honestly wasn't sure what the negative outcomes were of a divorce, but after reading this site all of the pain and sorrow from my friends came back. Everything that was mentioned especially about teens reactions were the way that my friends reacted during their parent's divorce. Credibility: This site seems to be credible.

Title: Helping Your Child Through a Divorce Author: Michelle New Date Published: January 2011 Why Relevant and Summary: Talks about what to do and not what to do in the situation of a divorce and has tips on how to handle children's reactions, helping them cope, adjusting to the new living situation, and parenting after divorce. How This Influenced My Thinking: There were some great tips on parenting after the divorce and some great example on how to help your child cope with the situation. I thought it did a great job of explaining how the child may feel and how to address those feelings. Credibility of Source: Author has their PhD and the website is a credible website

Title:Helping your child through a divorce Author:Michelle New Date published: 2011 Why relevant and summary:This article is relevant because it discusses how parents can help their children cope with a divorce. It discusses how to break the news to them, giving them consistency, how to parent as single parents, and not bringing arguements to them. How this influenced my thinking:I believe that it is very important to never argue in front of children. When this happens, children may feel like they need to choose sides. If at all possible, parents should try and be civil with one another and hopefully end the marriage on good terms. Credibility of source:Credible

Title: Effects of Divorce on Children Author: Lesley Foulkes-Jamison Date Published: 2001 Why Relevant and Summary:This article focused on children and their behaviors and reactions after divorce. It also gave some good insight on what parents could do to make their child feel less confused about the divorce. How This Influenced My Thinking: I learned about statistics of how likely children are to behave in negative ways after divorce and also gave me good advice on how to help your child cope. Credibility of Source: Lesley is a psychologist and has a Ph.D and all of her information seemed to be very accurate.

Title: The Effects of Divorce on Children Author: Foulkes-Jamison, L. & Carolina, S. Date Published: 2001 Why Relevant and Summary: Discusses the many stressors on children as their parents go through a divorce, and how they are affected differently depending on their age and level of development. Also gives many tips on ways to make the divorce easier on your children. How This Influenced My Thinking: Opened my eyes up to the many challenges present in this type of situation - when a couple is not happy together nor getting along but still need to work really hard to keep a good enough relationship to support their children. Credibility of Source: Clinical Psychology Associates - very credible

Title:The Impact of Divorce on Young Children and  adolescents Author:Carl Pickhardt Date Published:12/19/2012 Why Relevant and Summary:This article gives a child's perspective on divorce and how it may affect them directly and all of the ways it affects them How This Influenced My Thinking:It gave me a better detailed account to what specifically a child may feel and need.  Credibility of Source:Very

Author: Carl Pickhardt Phd Title: Raising child with divorce Date: Dec 19 2011 Why Relevent and Summary: Gives exensive overview of how to deal with a child who has to deal with divorced parents. Also discusses how adolescents deal with divorce versus small children How This Changed My Thinking: I did not know there were certain ways you can approach your children regarding this matter that can maybe help through this harsh process Credibility of Source: i thought it was a credible source. psychology website and written by a Phd author

Title: Co-Parenting After Divorce - Sixteen Arguments in Support of Co-Parenting Author: Edward Kruk, Ph.D. Date published: April 16, 2012 Why relevant and summary: In the absence of violence, abuse, etc., the best thing for children in the midst of divorce is to have time with both parents. Shared parenting or Co-Parenting encourages children to maintain meaningful relationships with both parents after a divorce. Although in practice, this can be difficult and the reality is that in many divorces, kids will live primarily with one parent, the point is to set aside our anger and conflicts with the ex spouse and really put the children's needs first. How this influenced my thinking: I recently went through a divorce, and my ex spouse lives on the opposite coast. Co-parenting is quite tricky, but the bottom line is that we both agree that the kids need their father in the picture as much as possible. We have agreed to never, ever use the children as a weapon against each other. We always consult each other in terms of the children's needs, education, etc. Although the kids live 100% of the time with me, I encourage daily contact with their father via Skype/FaceTime, and when they are a bit older, they will be able to travel and spend some school vacations with their dad. Credibility: Psychology Today blog is credible.

Title: The Do's and Don'ts of Divorce for Parents Author: James Lehman, MSW Date Published: n.d. Why Relevant and Summary: This goes over how to handle discussing divorce with children, what might be expected. and how to react to children's behaviour. Gives a list of what to try to do, and what to avoid. How this Influenced my Thinking: This showed me that there are multiple reasons for divorce, and how children usually feel fear when they dont know what will be happening to their family. this also showed me that family divorce counseling might not always be favorable. Credibility: Empowering Parents website that won an iParenting media award. ideas, not straight facts.

Title: Tips for Divorced Parents Author: Block, J. & Smith, M. Date published: 2013 Summary and Relevance: This article explains how important it is to co parent after a divorce and the beneficial effects that has on the child. How this changed my thinking: I saw that even with how destructive divorce can be on a child this can help them to cope. Credibility: Seems credible.

Title-Tips of Divorced Parents Author-Jocelyn Block, M.A. and Melinda Smith Date-2013 Why Relevant and summary- This is relevant because it gives tips on how to be with your children when divorce occurs. How this influenced my thinking- I learned a lot of different things because I have never experience how it is. Credibility- Seems credible because of how recent it is, also the information comes from resources.

Title: Teh Effect of Divorce on Children: What makes a difference Author: Nithyakala Karuppaswamy Date Published: no date Why Relevant and Summary: gives some really good information about how divorce effects children and what can be done to make a divorce easier for them. How This Influenced My Thinking: It gave me some really good information about what to do and what not to do during a divorce. Credibility of Source: Very good

Title: Children and divorce Author: No Author Date Published: Updated March 2011 Why Relevant and summary: It is relevant because it talks about divorce and how it affects children. It also discusses what the best approach is when dealing with children and divorce. How this influenced my thinking: I am now more conscious and aware that everything that parents do will affect their children.

Title: Children & Divorce Author: GSYMC Date Published: 2009 Why Relevant and Summary: It helps to understand the behavior of children at different stages depending on when divorce takes place. How this influenced my thinking:It helped me to understand what I was going through when my parents got divorced. Also helps me to understand what other children might go through and how to be a supportive friend or family member. Credibility: This site seems to be credible.

Title: The Gray Divorce Revolution: Date: 2012 Author: Merril Silverstein, PhD Why relevant and summary: This article explains the staggering statistic of a raise in divorce rates among people in middle adulthood. This article also outlines many key factors that may come into play when middle aged adults decide to get a divorced. How has this influenced my thinking: It didn't, but it was interesting to see the shocking fact that divorce rates were highest among middle aged adults. Source credibility: This was posted to the Oxford Journals

Title: Should I Get A Divorce? Author: Amy Desai Date Published: 2006-2007 Why Relevant and Summary: This article give the viewpoint from a Christian worldview, in which options other than divorce are evaluated. It warns of the long-lasting effects an emotional judgment may not take the time to contemplate. How This Influenced My Thinking: This whole Focus on the Family site has great resources and ideas for those in marital distress. Credibility of Source: 6- Expert in the field but not clear citing of resources.

Title: Focus on Kids: The Effects of Divorce on Children Author: Karen DeBord Date Published: n.d. Why Relevant and Summary: It's relevant because it discusses what the child feels and what things may change according to which age group he or she is in. How This Influenced My Thinking: It gave me more knowledge on how it is kids feel. This is beneficial to me because I want to work with children. Credibility of Source: Seems credible. It lists all the sources used.

Title:10 Strengths To Make A Happy Marriage Author: firstthings.org Date Published: 2010 Why relevant and summary: this webpage discusses the strengths needed to create a successful marriage. The author discusses their finding after having researched what makes a happy marriage; clear communication, flexibility, and other characteristic of the marriage are what creates the happiness. How This Influenced My Thinking: For the most part it didn't. It reinforced what Ii already what created a happy marriage. Credibility: it was a article published by a .org website

title: 10 Strengths to a happy marriage Author: unknown Date: 2010 Why relevant and summary: I really liked this article it was brief interesting and to the point. It is a reflection on a study conducted on more than 21,000 couples in all the United states and gives 10 easy tips on what to do to improve your marriage and also gives the top 10 reasons that cause problems for a marriage. I think it is an easy piece to read for everyone at every stage of their married life. How it changed my thinking: Most of the tips are common sense that everyone will agree to it but more than often we fail to follow; reading them kind of reinforces their message. Credibility of source: The website "first things first" is a non profit grass roots organization that came to be as a tool to help the residents of Hamilton county , Tennessee. Apparently they have a high divorce rate and other relationship and children rearing issues and this website offers advice, support and education on hoe to deal with family problems on a day to day basis. Dozens of books are written every year about the things that go wrong in marriage. Now one of America's foremost marriage researchers has evaluated the things that go right in marriage. David H. Olson, founder of Life Innovations and one of the creators of the Prepare/Enrich marriage enrichment tools, has surveyed 21,501 married couples in all 50 states to identify the top ten strengths of happy marriages.

Title: 7 Tips for a Successful Marriage Author: Tim Dowling Date: 8 February 2013 Why relevant and summary: This article provides seven solid tips for maintaining a healthy and successful marriage. For example, Dowling says, "go to bed angry if you want to" because you're better off getting a good night's sleep before tackling the conflict again. Another good tip is to remember that every relationship is unique and it is damaging to compare yours to other relationships. I think the other gives some pretty solid, yet basic marriage advice that couples considering marriage should read. How this influenced my thinking: I have been married and divorced, and am in another relationship that is progressing toward marriage. I hope to avoid the mistakes made in my first marriage, so articles like this one apply directly to my personal life. However, no matter how good the advice is, you've got to make sure you're marrying someone you can absolutely be with through thick and thin. This type of advice is for couples that are certain that they are marrying someone they are truly compatible with long-term. Credibility of source: decent. Guardian (UK) article.

Title: 7 Tips for a Successful Marriage Author: Tim Dowling Date: 8 February 2013 Why relevant and summary: This article provides seven tips for maintaining a healthy and successful marriage. How this influenced my thinking: Even though I'm not married I will keep these tips in mind when I do get married Credibility of source: Decent. Guardian (UK) article.