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Gary Patton

Honoring Men: A Manifesto for Conscious Women - 0 views

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  • Honoring Men: A Manifesto for Conscious Women
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 20 Feb 12
       
      An interesting article on male/female relationship issues. 2011-06-28
  • Gary Patton on 20 Feb 12
     
    An interesting article on male/female relationship issues by Mary Allen & John Cole.
Gary Patton

10 Powerful Body Language Tips - 0 views

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business evangelism coaching tips relationships dis-stress discipline

shared by Gary Patton on 07 May 12 - No Cached
  • Studies show that observers have greater success judging a person’s real emotional state when they can see the entire body.
  • legs and feet are left unrehearsed, they are also where the truth can most often be found.
  • when stating your opinion, use the authoritative arc,
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  • sat with unfolded arms and legs, they remembered 38% more
  • see your audience exhibiting defensive body language, change tactics, take a break, or get them to move—and don’t try to persuade them until their bodies open up
  • incorporate gestures into their deliveries, I consistently find that their verbal content improves
  • mirror other people with intent, it can be an important part of building rapport and nurturing feelings of mutuality
  • A genuine smile not only stimulates your own sense of well-being, it also tells those around you that you are approachable, cooperative, and trustworthy.
  • Touching someone on the arm, hand, or shoulder for as little as 1/40 of a second creates a human bond.
  • Physical obstructions are especially detrimental to collaborative efforts
  • Even during a coffee break, be aware that you may create a barrier
  • focus on those who are speaking by turning your head and torso to face them directly and by making eye contact. Leaning forward, nodding, and tilting your head are other nonverbal ways to show you’re engaged and paying attention. It’s important to hear people. It’s just as important to make sure they know you are listening.
  • simply holding your body in expansive, “high-power” poses (leaning back with hands behind the head and feet up on a desk, or standing with legs and arms stretched wide open) for as little as two minutes stimulates higher levels of testosterone
  • 10 Powerful Body Language Tips
  • Gary Patton on 07 May 12
     
    Studies show that observers have greater success judging a person's real emotional state when they can see the entire body. Here 10 helpful tips for improving your relationship engagement. gfp (2012-05-07)
Gary Patton

Anger Management | Ten Essentials to Consider - 0 views

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stress dis-stress Anger rage bitterness unforgiveness

shared by Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11 - No Cached
  • Anger is healthy
  • It’s what we do with our anger that makes all the difference to the maintenance of our own health
  • Anger arousal symptoms
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  • warning to keep our mouth shut and think
  • soul solitude time will allow us to trace and track the origins of the triggers so we can understand them
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
       
      My problem with Rhoberta's psychology when she points to "understanding" the roots of anger/rage as a route to healing is that it cannot produce freedom from your bondage. (I know this because I knew the emotional and spiritual roots of my rage for the full 25 years that I struggled with my it and that understanding didn't help me one bit. Only knowing "truth" can set you free. Understanding our past pain's roots doesn't produce truth or "freedom" from the pain. Only the truth that Jesus talks about at http://is.gd/NwDqOu can do that. gfp
  • trouble in relationships
  • We have to learn to manage incoming anger, too.
  • one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves
  • you may not have any boundaries
  • Anger is healthy. It is natural. It is a gift of perception, experience and biology
  • Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
     
    Anger is one of the most powerful emotions and the most challenging one to manage for most people. Some of us can't "manage" it ...at all. At best, some of us can ONLY moderate our reaction to our amygdala's response to our perception of a violation of our so-called rights. That's why Essential #1 is so crucial. (I know because I fought a losing battle with anger/rage for over 25 years until recently when I re-discovered a truth that I had forgotten as a Jesus Follower. Yeh! We're NOT perfect ...just saved as someone said.) You may enjoy my Tweet for 2011-08-27 apropos Essential #1: "A relationship can only thrive when at least one party knows when to back off!" ~ gfp '42™ gfp
  • Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
     
    Essential #1 in this article is so crucial. (I know because I fought a losing battle with anger/rage for over 25 years until recently. I have now re-discovered a truth that I had forgotten as a Jesus Follower. Yeh! We're NOT perfect ...just saved as someone said.) gfp
Gary Patton

"Thinkers Anonymous" Renesch.Com | FutureShapers Monthly Newsletter Archives - 0 views

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business freedom addiction

shared by Gary Patton on 06 Dec 11 - No Cached
  • little is said about the one of the biggest addictions for the Western world - compulsive thinking.
  • addiction is a habit that we cannot easily break through willpower, is something we do compulsively and is harmful to us, or to people around us
  • it is a habit that is difficult to stop does harm.
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  • Anne Lamott quote: "My mind is like a bad neighborhood, I try not to go there alone."
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 06 Dec 11
       
      The Apostle Paul agrees with Ms. Lamott, (1954- ) U.S. author. He suggests that we allow Holy Spirit to control that dangerous neighbourhood in Galatians 5:16-17 &25 as well as 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 . gfp
  • Thinking becomes harmful when it takes total control of our behavior - so we can't freely choose but feel compelled to act. In other words, conscious choice is absent.
  • We have assigned our minds an aristocratic nobility so that our thinking often reigns supreme over our feelings and intuitions, which are often denied in the process.
  • Mystics and spiritual teachers tell us about the trap that our egoic minds represent, and how our egoic thinking prevents us from having "the relationship of all relationships" that so many people yearn for.
  • many if not most of people's problems stem from egoic thinking which leads to worry, anxiety, depression and fear.
  • We are the most sedated society in the world
  • Surrender to a Higher Power - "a power greater than ourselves" - was the answer created by the founders of A.A. along with a supportive community of fellow alcoholics who knew what it was like - who could identify with the hopelessness, fear, and powerlessness that went with the addiction.
  • So how do we stop thinking? We can't stop all thinking but we'd be far healthier if we could end the compulsiveness and only engage with generative thinking - thinking that creates, explains, challenges and contributes to wisdom and understanding. Compulsiveness is the problem, not thinking itself.
  • Einstein told us decades ago that we'd never solve our problems with the same consciousness that created them. The same thinking that made the messes cannot get us out of them. We have evolved to such a degree that we must surrender to a power greater than our egoic minds if we are to transcend the conditions we find undesirable - personally, organizationally and societally.
  • mystic Robert Rabbin says, "we must live in the heart, not in the thinking mind."
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 06 Dec 11
       
      Mr. Rabbin, a U.S. author & speaker, has a flagship program, "The 5 Principles of Authentic Living. He calls these his "Authenticity Accelerator". The priciples are powerfull. I agree and teach these five, key relationship approaches as well: 1 Be Present 2 Pay Attention 3 Listen Deeply 4 Speak Truthfully 5 Act Creatively at http://www.authenticityaccelerator.com I disagree with Mr. Rensch, however, that Mr. Rabbin's work entitles him to the title given to the great mystics of the Middle Ages, like Catholic Priest John of the Cross and his mentor, the Catholic Nun, Teresa of Avalon! gfp
  • Gary Patton on 06 Dec 11
     
    Mr. Renesch shares and interesting definition of 'addiction' and proposes an uncommon one most would not normally consider an addiction. His thesis makes sense. gfp (2011-11-17)
Gary Patton

Twitter Best Practices: How to Use Twitter Effectively | GROWMAP.COM - 0 views

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social media Twitter NBD

shared by Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11 - No Cached
  • Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11
     
    Gail Gardner is a relationship marketing professional & provides excellent advice to new & old Twitters in her post below. It will be helpful whether you use Twitter to update friends or market a product. gfp(2011-11-15)
  • Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11
     
    Discover from a social media and computer expert how to use Twitter to build your "bricks and mortar", On-Line or "Home-Based Business". GaryFPatton
Gary Patton

Google+ Pages Now Open For Businesses, Brands, Places & More - 0 views

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google+ social media NBD marketing

shared by Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11 - No Cached
  • Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11
     
    This article was recommended by Mari Smith, a Relationship Media guru via her Tweet today. gfp (2011-11-16)
  • Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11
     
    Discover how best to employ the hottest new social media tool Google+ Pages to build your business and career. Get the inside scoop! GaryFPatton
Stanley Bishop

I Got Sleep Apnea. Thankfully it was Diagnosed Early - 1 views

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Gary Patton

"The O-Purpose Leader Experience" Video | Kevin McCarthy - 0 views

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business coaching coaching tips relationships

shared by Gary Patton on 08 May 12 - No Cached
  • Gary Patton on 08 May 12
     
    This is the complimentary vidio of first session of "The On-Purpose Leader Experience" Audio by Kevin McCarthy, author the book "The On Purpose Person and "The On Purpose Leader". The above links will take your to my reviews of Mr. McCarthy's two books. 1. Use this link to get to the Event (no password is needed): http://www.onpurposeleaderexperience.com 2. Note the Control Box in the upper left hand corner of the Event page. Click on the SLIDES and/or LISTENING OPTIONS if you feel like you are having viewing or listening problems. 3. You can register for TOPLEX from within the webcast using the tabs on the left of the screen.
Gary Patton

Christians, Muslims & Jews: God Saves Us Only By His Grace ...NOT Our Good Works - Bib... - 0 views

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bible scripture ephesians salvation grace Jesus Yeshua works

shared by Gary Patton on 18 Feb 12 - No Cached
  • Ephesians 2:8-10
  • not by works
  • For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 18 Feb 12
       
      Yeshua (Jesus) Followers work hard for God! But, they do so moment to moment only after Holy Spirit draws them into relationship with Jesus and they choose to follow Him. They do their "good works" to glorify God out of thankful love for the salvation that He already has given them because of His loving grace and mercy (unmerited favour). And they do this only as he lives his life out through them as Jesus said in John 15:5 at http://diigo.com/0jvfh . Good works done otherwise i.e., in "the flesh" (pre-salvation habitual leanings), have NO value.
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  • we are God’s handiwork,(F) created(G) in Christ Jesus to do good works,(H) which God prepared in advance for us to do.
  • by grace
  • Gary Patton on 18 Feb 12
     
    Ephesians 2:8-10 Almighty God clarifies His saving promise to us who believe in Him and what He has already done for us through Jesus' sacrifice on our behalf because of His great love for all men and women ...no matter what they've done. gfp (2012-02-04)
Gary Patton

Our Temporal and Eternal Homes - Bible Gateway - 0 views

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shared by Gary Patton on 04 Apr 12 - No Cached
  • For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. 15 And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again.
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 04 Apr 12
       
      When we believe this, 1 John 5: 11-13 at ? says we are guaranteed to spend eternity with God because of what Yeshua/Jesus did (past tense) for us. He paid the full penalty for our sin nature and sins when He by His choice and willingly gave up His life on a cross (torture instrument) for those who believe in His gift and "Good news" of salvation through Him with His and our heavenly Father.
  • For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 04 Apr 12
       
      The Bible in more than one place makes clear that human beings live only one life. It says there is no reincarnation during whicch we can strive and work to be better to earn reconciliation with God. At the end of our one life on earth, we each will be held accountable for everything we've done here during it. And God will not measure our relative goodness for we "...all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God". (Romans 6:3) In deciding whether we can and will spend eternity with Him in heaven, or heavenly Father only will check on our relationship with and followership of Yeshua/Jesus of Nazareth, God Incarnate (God with us) ...His eternal Son. Our eternal fate will depend solely on whether or not trusted in Yeshua/Jesus to have paid the full penalty for our sinful nature and sins on His cross when he died for the degradating behaviour of every human being who ever did, is or will live!
  • 2 Corinthians 5:1-15
  • Gary Patton on 04 Apr 12
     
    Reverend Brian Bell, in 2004, opened his "Meditation" at my Mom's funeral with 2 Corinthians 5:1-15. He was the then Lead Pastor of "The Meeting House Yorkdale", in North York of The Greater Toronto Area. My Mom's, Ina Donelda Patton's (aka Donna and Donnie) funeral was held on January 22, 2004 at 7:00 p.m. at the Simple Alternative Chapel in that city. gfp (2012-04-04)
Gary Patton

Psalm 23 KJV - The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not - Bible Gateway - 0 views

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shared by Gary Patton on 04 Apr 12 - No Cached
  • Psalm 23
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 04 Apr 12
       
      The King James translation of the Christian Bible was the one my Mom used most of her life. This passage was read at her funeral by my Friend, Adele van Caulart. It was one of Ina Donelda Patton's favoutites. My Mom also was called Donnie by my Dad and members of our extended family, as she had been as a child by her 8 siblings. Mom's Friends and catering business colleagues usually called her Donna.
  • I will dwell in the house of the LORD for ever
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 04 Apr 12
       
      This is God's eternal promise to those who trust in Him and His plan by following Yeshua of Nazareth (Jesus). He died a sacrificial death as God Immanuel (God with us) to pay the full penalty for the sinful nature and sins of everyone who believes that Jesus' death on the cross, not our "good works", gives us the salvation we all need. Our sin and sins separates us from a relationship with God (Romans 3:23 & 6:23). Only Jesus' death can reconcile us with our heavenly Father for eternity the Bibles says clearly in John 14:1-6 & 22-27 at http://diigo.com/0pfky .
Gary Patton

Guarding The Most Valuable Assets In Your Life - 0 views

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CBMC dis-stress stress freedom

shared by Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11 - No Cached
  • “Our most valuable asset sits 63 feet ahead” (referring to the driver of the truck).
  • really struggling with stress and not able to get everything accomplished that I wanted to get done. As a result, I had begun putting a lot of pressure on myself to become more productive.
  • I love progress and I love getting stuff done. However, what God showed me was that people and relationships are more important.
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  • “I figured that God is bringing this person into my life at this moment for a reason – either for them to speak into my life or for me to speak into theirs.
  • I was stunned. It occurred to me how often I do not demonstrate this in my own life, especially with my own fa
  • Truth@Work
  • “The way I look at it, if I honor God in conversations like these, He will take care of what needs to get done on my task list.”
  • Perhaps my biggest problem was my lack of faith.
  • more faith in myself to get work done than I do in my Heavenly Father’s ability to empower me to accomplish what has to be done. Because of my displaced “faith,” I sometimes put tasks ahead of people.
  • ily. My attitude so often is, “I can’t talk now. I’ve got something really important to get done!”
  • ), a ministry to people in the workplace.
  • www.christianroundtablegroups.com
  • Bleedership: Biblical First-Aid for Leaders.
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
       
      See what people say about Jim's book @ http://is.gd/tqIhNw gfp
  • online blog, www.5feet20.com
  • Reflection/Discussion Questions
  • Proverbs 17:17, 18:24, 27:23-27; Matthew 7:12; Luke 6:31; John 15:13; Ephesians 6:5-9
  • Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
     
    Is work a 24/7 proposition for you? Has it become a depressing rather than fun activity? Do you not know where to turn to get off the treadmill? This short article by Jim Lang, of the Christian Business Men's Committee has some freedom-producing answers for you! gfp This
  • Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
     
    Is work a 24/7 proposition for you? Has it become a depressing rather than fun activity? Do you not know where to turn to get off the treadmill? gfp
Gary Patton

Embrace Your Irrational Colleagues - Ron Ashkenas - Harvard Business Review - 0 views

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office relationships coaching tips stress-management

shared by Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11 - No Cached
  • There is just something going on that we don't realize.
  • But the reality is that the nurse was doing what she thought best, which made her appear irrational to others. Once the underlying history and motivation was revealed, her behavior made sense.
  • Irrational behavior is part of the human condition.
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  • At some level, conscious or unconscious, each of us has a compelling reason — such as short-term gratification, peer acceptance, convenience, lifestyle, and many more — for doing the "wrong" thing.
  • "There is NO SUCH THING as irrational behaviour".
  • Everyone is strangeSave me and youAnd sometimes I thinkYou strange too
  • Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11
     
    Do you argue with your colleagues, friends, neighbours ...and especially partners and other relatives... when they behave irrationally? If you're like me you do because I'm a "Recovering Type 'A' Controlling Personality"! :-) However regardless of your personality type, you are wise not to argue with seemingly irrational people because "Irrationality Isn't Always Stupidity"! gfp (2011-11-23)
  • Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11
     
    Discover in this short article why arguing with an irrational is really dumb as well as a better way to relate to them! GaryFPatton
Gary Patton

The Art of Asking Questions - Ron Ashkenas - Harvard Business Review - 0 views

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business questions coaching tips life-skills

shared by Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11 - No Cached
  • But asking questions effectively is a major underlying part of a manager's job
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11
       
      I'd argue effective questioning is everyone's job and a major life ...not just business... skill! It "blows my mind" that theis powerful relationship communication skill is not taught at school. But then, some argue, that John Dewey, one of the Founders of the Humanist Society and principal author of the "Humanist Manifesto"
  • three areas where improved "questioning" can strengthen managerial effectiveness
  • Good managers therefore are always asking themselves and others about what they could do better or differently.
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11
       
      Both getting and giving good feedback is another major life-skill challenge for many of us. Ask me for my S-M-A-R-TBriefing™ on each of these life-skills because ... "All feedback you get or, better, can encourage, is helpful and able to assist you irrespective of it being complimentary, contrarian or contentious!"~ gfp '42™
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  • Many managers don't know how to probe the thought process of their subordinates, colleagues, and bosses — and instead make assumptions about the basis of their actions. And when those assumptions are wrong, all sorts of dysfunctional patterns can be created.
  • probing needs to be in the spirit of accelerating progress, illuminating unconscious assumptions and solving problems
  • many of the best managers I've seen have an uncanny ability to engage in Socratic dialogue that helps people reach their own conclusions about what can be done to improve a plan or project, which of course leads to much more ownership and learning.
  • Asking these questions in a way that does not trigger defensiveness and that is seen as constructive is an important skill for managers.
  • Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11
     
    Few of us are effective questioners. And being good at the skill of asking questions effectively is not just a major underlying part of a manager's job as is the focus in this excellent article. I'd argue effective questioning is everyone's job and a major life ...not just business... skill! A major life challenge of many of us is that we don't know how to probe the thought process of our bosses, colleagues, friends, neighbours ...and especially our partners and other relatives. Instead we make ill-informed and unwise assumptions about the basis of their actions and behaviours. And when those assumptions are wrong ...as they usually are..., all sorts of dysfunctional patterns can result. gfp (2011-11-23)
  • Gary Patton on 28 Nov 11
     
    Discover in this article why what you weren't taught in school can be a major draw-back in your career and life!
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