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Daryl Bambic

Why Kids Care More About Achievement Than Helping Others - The Atlantic - 0 views

www.theatlantic.com/...373378

edwrdsb wrdsblearns

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  • Empathy activates conscience and moral reasoning, improves happiness, curbs bullying and aggression, enhances kindness and peer inclusiveness, reduces prejudice and racism, promotes heroism and moral courage and boosts relationship satisfaction. Empathy is a key ingredient of resilience, the foundation to trust, the benchmark of humanity, and core to everything that makes a society civilized.
    • Daryl Bambic
      Daryl Bambic on 18 Dec 16
       
      Do you agree that empathy is the key ingredient to the individual's happiness?
  • parents value achievement and happiness over empathy and caring.
  • Daryl Bambic on 18 Dec 16
     
    Why Kids Care More About Achievement Than Helping Others https://t.co/5EkY8AKFdv Empathy is core to civilized society #edwrdsb #wrdsblearns
alicia waid

Milgram's Experiment on Obedience to Authority - 4 views

nature.berkeley.edu/...article35.htm

Milgram stanley experiment obedience authority results evil good humans power

shared by alicia waid on 01 May 13 - No Cached
    • alicia waid
      alicia waid on 01 May 13
       
      Excellent site for summary of Milgram's experiment.
    • alicia waid
      alicia waid on 01 May 13
       
      Important to note the different kinds of studies that were made. (2 variations talked about.)
    • alicia waid
      alicia waid on 01 May 13
       
      Results: Important to note the 3 different outcomes. State brief explanations of how they're different.
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    • alicia waid
      alicia waid on 01 May 13
       
      Milgram expected what the majority of us expected: Teachers to react to the students' suffering and telling the experimenter that he/she cannot continue the experiment.
    • alicia waid
      alicia waid on 01 May 13
       
      Important to note the 3 types of results found.  Interesting to see the contrast. 1) Obeyed orders from experimenter, yet blamed everything on the experimenter. 2) Obeyed orders from experimenter, yet blamed self in the end. 3) Stopped during experiment.  (What most people would have expected the highest percentage of results to be, but that is not the case).
    • alicia waid
      alicia waid on 01 May 13
       
      The "teachers" were happy to see that no harm was done to the "students", however when they were doing the experiment, they continued to use a higher voltage like asked.  Important to note that, although they're happy to see no harm was done, they were willing to do that harm for the experiment (and because the experimenter had asked for them to continue even if they didn't necessarily want to).
    • alicia waid
      alicia waid on 01 May 13
       
      The whole concept of "Obedience to Authority".  A high percentage of people will do things even if they don't necessarily want to. If someone tells them to do it, they will.
    • alicia waid
      alicia waid on 01 May 13
       
      Once put in a position with such power, some people don't know how to use it.  With such power, a person may result in changing completely and doing things they might not have necessarily done before all they've received so much power.
    • alicia waid
      alicia waid on 01 May 13
       
      Under the pressure of having someone "superior" to you, tell you to do something, most of the time, you do it even if you don't necessarily want to.  (Example of man being pressured to continue the experiment).
    • alicia waid
      alicia waid on 01 May 13
       
      Basic information of experiment.
    • alicia waid
      alicia waid on 01 May 13
       
      The "student's" sound effects adds depth to the experiment.  When hearing screams and cries, will people really be able to go through with the experiment? We later find out that many do.
  • out of fear or out of a desire to appear cooperative
  • "Teachers" were asked to administer increasingly severe electric shocks to the "learner" when questions were answered incorrectly.
  • illustrates people's reluctance to confront those who abuse power
  • the experiment would study the effects of punishment on learning ability
  • 45-volt shock samples
  • 2.5 percent of participants used the full 450 volts available.
  • grunt at 75 volts; complain at 120 volts; ask to be released at 150 volts; plead with increasing vigor, next; and let out agonized screams at 285 volts.
  • yell loudly and complain of heart pain.
  • actor would refuse to answer any more questions
  • 330 volts the actor would be totally silent
  • treat silence as an incorrect answer and apply the next shock level to the student.
  • hesitated to inflict the shocks, the experimenter would pressure him to proceed
  • Some teachers refused to continue with the shocks early on, despite urging from the experimenter.
  • expected as the norm
  • (65%) of the teachers were willing to progress to the maximum voltage level
  • participants continued to obey
  • he proceeded, repeating to himself, "It’s got to go on, it’s got to go on."
  • visible but teachers were asked to force the learner’s hand to the shock plate so they could deliver the punishment
  • Less obedience was extracted from subjects in this case.
  • teachers were instructed to apply whatever voltage they desired to incorrect answers.
  • 15 to 450 volts
  • averaged 83 volts
  • most participants were good, average people, not evil individuals. They obeyed only under coercion.
  • authority figure was in close proximity
  • teachers felt they could pass on responsibility to others
  • experiments took place under the auspices of a respected organization
  • Rebelled.
  • gave up responsibility for their actions, blaming the experimenter
  • Obeyed but blamed themselves.
  • harsh on themselves
  • Obeyed but justified themselves.
  • was a greater ethical imperative calling for the protection of the learner over the needs of the experimenter.
Emilie L

The Mind of the Narcissist - 0 views

malignantselflove.tripod.com/msla.html

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    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      himself vs. reflection: major point
  • Some people explicitly state that they do not love themselves at all (they are ego-dystonic). Others confine their lack of self-love to certain of their traits, to their personal history, or to some of their behaviour patterns. Yet others feel content with who they are and with what they are doing (ego-syntonic). But one group of people seems distinct in its mental constitution – narcissists.
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      * keyword: distinct mental constitution (that differs from all the different kinds of confidence kinda brain traits)
  • Some people explicitly state that they do not love themselves at all (they are ego-dystonic).
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  • Narcissus is not in love with himself. He is in love with his reflection
  • Loving your True Self is healthy, adaptive, and functional. Loving a reflection has two major drawbacks: One depends on the existence and availability of the reflection to produce the emotion of self-love. The absence of a "compass", an "objective and realistic yardstick", by which to judge the authenticity of the reflection. In other words, it is impossible to tell whether the reflection is true to reality – and, if so, to what extent.
  • they direct their love to other people's impressions of them. He who loves only impressions is incapable of loving people, himself included.
  • If he cannot love himself – he must love his reflection
  • ut to love his reflection – it must be loveable
  • the narcissist is preoccupied with projecting a loveable image, albeit compatible with his self-image (the way he "sees" himself).
  • The more successful this projected image (or series of successive images) is in generating Narcissistic Supply (NS) – the more the narcissist becomes divorced from his True Self and married to the image.
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      Meaning, the better he is capable of mentally creating better image for himself in the eyes of others (therefore his 'reflection') the more he becomes 'in love' with the idea of himself then who he truly is
  • he prefers his image
  • The narcissist, therefore, is not selfish – because his True Self is paralysed and subordinate
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      * very good point
  • narcissist is not attuned exclusively to his needs. On the contrary: he ignores them because many of them conflict with his ostensible omnipotence and omniscience. He does not put himself first – he puts his self last. He caters to the needs and wishes of everyone around him – because he craves their love and admiration. It is through their reactions that he acquires a sense of distinct self. In many ways he annuls himself – only to re-invent himself through the look of others. He is the person most insensitive to his true needs.
  • rains himself of mental energy in this process. This is why he has none left to dedicate to others
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      he is so focused in pleasing everyone else to this image that he has no time to dedicate himself to others = lack of empathy
  • Why should people indulge the narcissist, divert time and energy, give him attention, love and adulation? The narcissist's answer is simple: because he is entitled to it
  • Actually, he feels betrayed, discriminated against and underprivileged because he believes that he is not being treated fairly, that he should get more than he does
  • Clinical data show that there is rarely any realistic basis for these grandiose notions of greatness and uniqueness.
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      meaning there is nothing really extravagant or particular about them that they should (or could even be really driven!!) to be narcissistic 
  • The narcissist is forced to use other people in order to feel that he exists
  • He is a habitual "people-junkie"
  • With time, he comes to regard those around him as mere instruments of gratification, as two-dimensional cartoon figures with negligible lines in the script of his magnificent life.
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      bases his own happiness on what others are doing around him + their reflection of him
  • A personality whose very existence is a derivative of its reflection in other people's minds is perilously dependent on these people's perceptions. They are the Source of Narcissistic Supply (NSS). Criticism and disapproval are interpreted as a sadistic withholding of said supply and as a direct threat to the narcissist's mental house of cards.
  • The narcissist does not suffer from a faulty sense of causation. He is not oblivious to the likely outcomes of his actions and to the price he may have to pay. But he doesn't care.
  • he reacts to what he perceives to be a danger to the very cohesion of his self. Thus, every minor disagreement with a Source of Narcissistic Supply – another person – is interpreted as a threat to the narcissist's very self-worth.
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      * big point
  • He would rather discern disapproval and unjustified criticism where there are none then face the consequences of being caught off-guard.
  • that the narcissist cannot take chances. He would rather be mistaken then remain without Narcissistic Supply
  • blames others for his behaviour
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      again, lack of humility
  • The narcissist – wittingly or not – utilises people to buttress his self-image and to regulate his sense of self-worth. As long and in as much as they are instrumental in achieving these goals, he holds them in high regard, they are valuable to him
  • This is a result of his inability to love others: he lacks empathy, he thinks utility, and, thus, he reduces others to mere instruments
  • In 1977 the DSM-III criteria included: An inflated valuation of oneself (exaggeration of talents and achievements, demonstration of presumptuous self-confidence); Interpersonal exploitation (uses others to satisfy his needs and desires, expects preferential treatment without undertaking mutual commitments); Possesses expansive imagination (externalises immature and non-regimented fantasies, "prevaricates to redeem self-illusions"); Displays supercilious imperturbability (except when the narcissistic confidence is shaken), nonchalant, unimpressed and cold-blooded; Defective social conscience (rebels against the conventions of common social existence, does not value personal integrity and the rights of other people).
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      1977 Criteria to Narcissistics * very interesting, gives personality traits + actions 
  • He sees them only through this lens.
  • The narcissist is portrayed as a monster, a ruthless and exploitative person. Yet, inside, the narcissist suffers from a chronic lack of confidence and is fundamentally dissatisfied. This applies to all narcissists. The distinction between "compensatory" and "classic" narcissists is spurious. All narcissists are walking scar tissue, the outcomes of various forms of abuse.
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      strong on the outside, weak on the inside * contradicts with the other article I read earlier..
  • Freud (1915) offered a trilateral model of the human psyche, composed of the Id, the Ego, and the Superego.
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      * find further research
  • According to Freud, narcissists are dominated by their Ego to such an extent that the Id and Superego are neutralised. Early in his career, Freud believed narcissism to be a normal developmental phase between autoeroticism and object-love. Later on, he concluded that linear development can be thwarted by the very efforts we all make in our infancy to evolve the capacity to love an object (another person).
  • The frustrated and abused child learns that the only "object" he can trust and that is always and reliably available, the only person he can love without being abandoned or hurt – is himself.
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      ouuuu
  • This choice – to concentrate on the self – is the result of an unconscious decision to give up a consistently frustrating and unrewarding effort to love others and to trust them.
  • So, is pathological narcissism the outcome of verbal, sexual, physical, or psychological abuse (the overwhelming view) – or, on the contrary, the sad result of spoiling the child and idolising it (Millon, the late Freud)?
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      What makes a narcissistic (i.e., triggers it?)
  • Overweening, smothering, spoiling, overvaluing, and idolising the child – are also forms of parental abuse.
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      Too much love can apparently ruin a child
  • This is because, as Horney pointed out, the smothered and spoiled child is dehumanised and instrumentalised. His parents love him not for what he really is – but for what they wish and imagine him to be: the fulfilment of their dreams and frustrated wishes. The child becomes the vessel of his parents' discontented lives, a tool, the magic airbrush with which they seek to transform their failures into successes, their humiliation into victory, their frustrations into happiness. The child is taught to give up on reality and adopt the parental fantasies. Such an unfortunate child feels omnipotent and omniscient, perfect and brilliant, worthy of adoration and entitled to special treatment. The faculties that are honed by constantly brushing against bruising reality – empathy, compassion, a realistic assessment of one's abilities and limitations, realistic expectations of oneself and of others, personal boundaries, team work, social skills, perseverance and goal-orientation, not to mention the ability to postpone gratification and to work hard to achieve it – are all lacking or missing altogether. This kind of child turned adult sees no reason to invest resources in his skills and education, convinced that his inherent genius should suffice. He feels entitled for merely being, rather than for actually doing (rather as the nobility in days gone by felt entitled not by virtue of its merits but as the inevitable, foreordained outcome of its birth right). The narcissist is not meritocratic – but aristocratic.
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      too much love explained: the child is smothered by love and thus thinks theres a reason for it nana the world revolves around me because mummy and Daddy think so I am there pride and joy, because I am in fact an angel... now look at me I am a narcissitic and it's like a legit mental disorder.
  • This is Millon's mistake. He makes a distinction between several types of narcissists. He wrongly assumes that the "classic" narcissist is the outcome of parental overvaluation, idolisation, and spoiling and, thus, is possessed of supreme, unchallenged, self-confidence, and is devoid of all self-doubt.
  • Yet, this distinction is both wrong and unnecessary. Psychodynamically, there is only one type of pathological narcissism – though there are two developmental paths to it. And all narcissists are besieged by deeply ingrained (though at times not conscious) feelings of inadequacy, fears of failure, masochistic desires to be penalised, a fluctuating sense of self-worth (regulated by NS), and an overwhelming sensation of fakeness.
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      * much importanto: there is only reaaally one type of narcissism despite having two different paths to it i. too much love ii. not enough 
  • hey tend to ignore him – or actively abuse him – when these needs are no longer pressing or existent.
  • The narcissist's past of abuse teaches him to avoid deeper relationships in order to escape this painful approach-avoidance pendulum. Protecting himself from hurt and from abandonment, he insulates himself from people around him. He digs in – rather than spring out.
  • This shocking revelation deforms the budding Ego. The child forms a strong dependence (as opposed to attachment) on his parents. This dependence is really the outcome of fear, the mirror image of aggression. In Freud-speak (psychoanalysis) we say that the child is likely to develop accentuated oral fixations and regressions. In plain terms, we are likely to see a lost, phobic, helpless, raging child.
    • Emilie L
      Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
       
      child-like ego problems: strong dependence on parents creates a super vulnerable child
  • Emilie L on 02 Apr 12
     
    "The World of the Narcissist (Essay)" - tons of information +lots to read through, primary resource! like a fountain of info on narcissists. Reliability: not many ads, written by a doctor (has his CV published online, http://samvak.tripod.com/cv.html), wrote two books- one of which is an "ebook"
Lauren Ganze

The Schizophrenic Artist - Kellevision - 0 views

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creativity artist schizophrenia psychology

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  • Schizophrenia.  I always remember his story when I hear of clients being "noncompliant" and refusing their psychiatric medications. 
  • This client tried m
  • any different psychiatric medications over the course of about two years
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  • But the medications were a problem.
    • Lauren Ganze
      Lauren Ganze on 04 Apr 12
       
      Aren't they supposed to help?
  • conscious decision to stop taking his medications.
  • tranquilized his creativity.
  • The client was a brilliant artist and this was a significant part of his identity. 
  • He had a great deal of difficulty tolerating crowds of people and noise.  But his art returned.
  • His art gave his life purpose and meaning
  • He lived to create and expressing himself artistically made the suffering in his mind bearable.
  • They valued his art and understood this was the price he paid to express it.
  • He expressed happiness at his decision to stop medications and delight at the return of his art and with it his identity and purpose as an artist.
  • noncompliant
    • Lauren Ganze
      Lauren Ganze on 04 Apr 12
       
      Seriously, who does that? He's happy, he has friends who understand him, and he survives perfectly fine
  • Lauren Ganze on 04 Apr 12
     
    a schizophrenic who refused to continue medication because it "tranquilized" his creativity
Raghav Mohan

The Effects of Exercise on the Brain - 0 views

serendip.brynmawr.edu/...mmcgovern.html

brain psychology depression stress memory neurotransmitters exercise motivation help you learn neurogenesis BDNF phsyical mental health chemicals adolescent

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  • Raghav Mohan on 06 Apr 13
     
    Site completely states the main things about the effects of exercise on the brain. It helped me understand the basic things it can do and i was rather amazed. If anyone is confused about what exercise can do for your mental health THIS is the site to go to. It is very reliable since it is dedicated to education (.edu) and the information is constantly updated.
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  • Raghav Mohan on 06 Apr 13
     
    *sticky note* exercise balances out the chemicals i our brain which helps our nerve cells. And if you don't know our whole body functions on nerve cells (like a messenger) so without exercise we can never really perform to the fullest.
  • Raghav Mohan on 06 Apr 13
     
    *sticky note* exercise also benefits us in many ways! for example: it avoids MAJOR stress from us. It also keeps us motivated and confident so that if ever a bad situation comes up, we would not go into a dull zone and become depressed.
  • Raghav Mohan on 06 Apr 13
     
    *sticky note* It's good to be happy when exercising. Exercise also helps our reparative cell (we begin to lose nerve tissue nearing our 30's). Exercise helps slow that process down by A LOT. Which helps us live on healthy lived. People you see in the newspaper or online that are 100 years old! They don't just magically get that old by just sitting on there couch eating junk. They EXERCISE everyday to stay fit.
  • Raghav Mohan on 06 Apr 13
     
    *sticky note* It helps generate new neurons which provides many benefits. Study shows that people who began exercising at there teen years and that are now 65-70 are much more active and healthy than any other 65-70 year olds.
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