But What About the Wars Around Us? - 2 views
From the Anatomy of Peace, Lou asks if the wars around us will be solved by simply finding peace within. "That depends on the nature of the conflict. In conflicts simply between you and another...
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From the Anatomy of Peace, Lou asks if the wars around us will be solved by simply finding peace within. "That depends on the nature of the conflict. In conflicts simply between you and another...
"And notice, it is not just the sense of what to do but the desire to do it that's at issue. That desire has to come from within. When we have recovered those sensibilities toward others, we must...
Without the action, finding an out-of-the-box place is useless. From the Anatomy of Peace, "I think it was your father's way of reminding himself that although he could get out of the box by fin...
"We are free to choose our view of the world. "Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world." (Dyer)
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"The happiest people I know are people who don't even think about being happy. They just think about being good neighbors, good people. And then happiness sort of sneaks in the back window while ...
Okay so let's assume that you've now discovered an out-of-the box place. What do you do then? Perhaps you begin to think about the situation differently by asking yourself a series of questions: ...
"Each time you find you're getting stuck, whether at work or in your family, you'll again have to find an out-of-the-box place just as we have found one together here, and then you'll have to get ...
Once we have that out-of-the-box space (a person, an event, a memory of a person, a place) we can use it to take a new perspective on our current "all hell is breaking loose" perspective.
For me, it's a realization that I am out of the box if I have the desire to help/intercede/serve. If I cannot in that moment help it doesn't change my desire to help. Once I have that desire I am...
If that's true - what needs to change?
"Betraying myself, I invite in others the very behavior I say I hate in them. And betraying themselves, they invite the very behavior they say they hate in me. We cooperate in condemning ourselve...
Here's a question for the group: What are the red flags of your awareness that you're "In-the-box"? Here are some of mine: 1. I feel victimized 2. I procrastinate 3. reclusive, avoid interaction ...
"Make no judgments where you have no compassion." (Anne McCaffrey)
"Never,never be afraid to do what's right, especially if the well-being of a person ... is at stake. Society's punishments are small compared to the wounds we inflict on our soul when we look the ...
When others respond poorly, or in a way that we don't like; we begin thinking about how they are a problem for us. We both may benefit if we began wondering, instead, how I am a problem for them. ...
OK, I will!
"A great and curious truth of the human experience is that selflessness is the best thing you can do for yourself." (David McCollough Jr.)
"Blaming oneself can work as an excuse just as well as blaming someone else." (Bonds That Make Us Free)