"Society evolves not by shouting each other down, but by the unique capacity of unique, individual human beings to comprehend each other." (Lewis Thomas)

Yes - as Arbinger would say it; in order to stay out of the box do what you feel led to do. Do what is right. Action is key. Good observation H!

"The simple, clean truth about ourselves has more therapeutic power than any psychological theory ... No self-proclaimed human authority will serve you better than your own straightforward sense of what is right." (C. Terry Warner)

"I always prefer to believe the best of everybody; it saves so much trouble." (Rudyard Kipling)

"The boxed-in world we experience as self-betrayers offers us opportunities to submit in humiliation or to stick up for ourselves defiantly, which are both self-absorbed actions, but it offers us no chance of simply doing the right thing without concern for ourselves." (Bonds That Make Us Free)

"The view that someone else is responsible for my happiness is a symptom of self-deception." (The Arbinger Institute)

"The majority of men do not think in order to know the truth, but in order to assure themselves that the life which they lead, and which is agreeable and habitual to them, is the one which coincides with the truth." (Leo Tolstoy)

"Those who choose to be servants know the most about being free." (Janette Oke)

"It is better to lead from behind and to put others in front, especially when you celebrate victory when nice things occur. You take the front line when there is danger. Then people will appreciate your leadership." (Nelson Mandela)

"Rather than speaking badly about people and in ways that will produce friction and unrest in their lives, we should practice a purer perception of them, and when we speak of others, speak of their good qualities." (Dalai Lama)

"How much larger your life would be if your self could become smaller in it ... You would break out of this tiny and tawdry theatre in which your own little plot is always being played, and you would find yourself under a freer sky." (G.K. Chesterton)

"There can be no surer proof of a confirmed pride than a belief that one is sufficiently humble." (C.S. Lewis)

"When others respond poorly, perhaps I worry how they are a problem for me. Consider how we both might benefit if I started wondering how I am a problem for them." (Arbinger Core @ Work)

"I know now that people only 'seem' to live when they care only for themselves, and that it is by love for others that they really live." (Leo Tolstoy)

What would happen is we just assumed that we were blind to our faults. And instead of denying them we sought them out relentlessly? Upon discovering what they were, we then did something about them!

"The truth that matters is not that others have mistreated me - perhaps they have ... The truth that matters is that I have mistreated others." (C. Terry Warner)

"If you desire to know or learn anything to your advantage, then take delight in being unknown and unregarded. A true understanding and humble estimate of oneself is the highest and most valuable of all lessons... To think well and highly of others is the highest wisdom." (Thomas Kempis)

"And why are we your primary concern?" Lou asked pointedly.

"Because you don't think you should be," Avi answered. (The Anatomy of Peace)

Where is the blindness in my own life?

"The more mature a soul, the less it blames others." (Toba Beta)