Tweddle Group Outward Mindset

From a group that is working with the Arbinger Institute. Declare you truce!

For businesses today, the most valuable asset they manage are their people--and employee engagement and satisfaction are strategic imperatives that every leadership team should understand and proactively explore. People who simply show up to work each day unengaged are not actively using their talents to pursue or connect to their true purpose and as a result are unable to operate at their full potential.

What if this moment were already perfect, everything you needed to be happy?

A lot of great points here.

Great article - thanks Mike

Thanks for posting this Mike. Good stuff!!

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"To see the universal and all-pervading Spirit of Truth face to face, one must be able to love the meanest of all creation as oneself" Gandhi

What a fantastic and heartfelt article!

I am posting this in the Leadership & Self-Deception group because I think it beautifully expresses the spirit of the Arbinger teachings.

Incredible video!! Outstanding definition of leadership. I am reminded of something one of my favorite leaders used to say. "People don't follow titles. People follow people". Thank you for sharing this Joe.

Great Story about the Arbinger Way of Thinking and what happens when you use a good tool with a not so great intent.

Fantastic! Well worth the read!!!

Nearly every moment of every day of our entire lives (more than 1.2 billion seconds for me) is spent worrying about ourselves. We are preoccupied by concern about ourselves: am I doing the right thing, will I mess this up, will I be able to meet deadline, what do other people think of me, am I good enough, why is this happening to me, how can I get better, why don't people listen to me, why don't they treat me better, why can't they get out of my way, why is my body so fat, why don't things go my way, am I missing out on things? But what if we were freed of this worry about ourselves?

When we see others as people, we see their hopes, needs and fears, and this willingness to see and understand informs everything we do with them. When we see others as objects, on the other hand, we give ourselves license to treat them inhumanely. In order to feel justified, we don't allow ourselves to consider the positive in them.

Great series of short videos about the impact that Arbinger has had on the Kansas City SWAT Team

"Some people assume that because it's not combative, the life (of pure courage) I have described must be timid, weak, and ineffectual. On the contrary, I have found that all things being equal, self-absorbed people never think as clearly or act as decisively as those whose conscience is clear. Self-absorbed people see threats where none exist, often can't tell their enemies from their friends, intend to surround themselves with allies who won't overshadow them.

"It is not good enough to tell people to do their best for others and results. It is the obligation of the leaders & organization to provide a framework, a structure that enables them to do so."

Hmmmm.... I am intrigued. It sounds great, but it is vague enough where I cannot fully grasp what they are suggesting. How could we gather more information?

I asked this skilled leader (who I would describe as an out-of-the-box person) to share with me any problem she is currently facing. What she shared was a very common problems in her industry. She then described the problem in a way that would be an in-the-box-way of framing it. Meaning that she located the problem outside of herself. Outside of the leadership team. The problem, she said, was with the frontline workers. If only they could be doing things differently, then this problem would go away!

Many leaders often indicate that people are their greatest asset. I want to take it one step further and say, "No, it's not necessarily the people in their companies, but the relationship/responsiveness between these people that makes the difference." You may technically employ the best people, but if the relationships between them are poor, you are more likely to have mediocre teams and produce mediocre results.

I completely agree team meetings are a great place to reward individual success or great work!

Great article! The key may be to stay out of the box using either approach. Lou was tough!

It is not surprising, but it is better to read it for what it is. Neither strategy was even marginally effective enough to work on its own merits. I have never met a purely tough leader, but have worked with plenty that overly default in that direction. Similarly, I have never met a purely nice leader, but have worked with plenty that overly default in that direction. It is a difficult balance to strike in leadership, and it is one that cannot be explained in an article.

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