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"When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are." ― Donald Miller
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"When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are." ― Donald Miller
If you try to dominate people, you're already defeated. (Terry Dobson)
My own contempt for others is the most debilitating pain of all, for when I am in the middle of it -- when I'm seeing resentfully and disdainfully -- I condemn myself to living in a disdained, rese...
Rules of behavior can be conformed to hypocritically. We can tell the truth to make ourselves look good, act politely to hide an evil intention, and even speak kindly to make another person squirm....
If I am living right, I will have no reason to think others don't deserve my love.
Anything that can be categorized (gender, race, religion, age, socio-economic status) can become a way to dehumanize individuals within such groups. The differences we clutch to in our justificatio...
Edward told her. "I'm done with loving. It's too painful." "Pish," said the old doll. "Where is your courage?" "Somewhere else, I guess," said Edward. "You disappoint me," she said. "You disappoint...
If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds, and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the line dividing good and evil cut...
"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive." ― Dalai Lama XIV, The Art of Happiness
Acquaint yourself with your own ignorance. (Isaac Watts)
Don't give anybody up, or leave anybody out. My continuing passion is to part a curtain, that invisible veil of indifference that falls between us, and that blinds us to each other's presence, each...
All of us need to be toppled off the throne of self... Perched up there the tears of others are never upon our own cheek. (Elizabeth Goudge)
People who prefer to believe the worst of others will breed war and persecutions while the world lasts. (Dorothy L. Sayers)
Anyone who hath so little knowledge of human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but their own disposition, will waste their life in fruitless efforts and multiply the grief they propo...
Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you help them to become what they are capable of being. (Goethe)
To say 'I forgive you' is almost condescending - it locks me into an 'us and them' scenario keeping me right and you wrong. That attitude won't change anything. But I can experience empathy, and in...
We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer suffi...
In the simple, yet profound, words of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.: "The time is always right to do what is right".
Try to understand people. If you understand each other you will be kind to each other. Knowing a person well never leads to hate and almost always leads to love. (adapted, John Steinbeck)
When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, "Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping." (Fred Rogers)