Tweddle Group Outward Mindset

Nice! A simple change in perspective. "Be the change that you want to see in the world."- Gandhi

started by Joe Bennett on 12 Apr 13 1 follow-up, last by Brian Suszek on 12 Apr 13

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1. Don't accuse others of being in the box. Do try to stay out of the box yourself. 2. Don't give up on yourself when you discover you've been in the box. Do keep trying. 3. Don't deny that you'v...

started by Joe Bennett on 12 Apr 13 no follow-up yet

Those darn PIR notes that quality sends out. I get myself into a box a box when my name is on many of the PIRs! I get angry, I get defensive; but worst of all I send out notes to my direct report...

started by Joe Bennett on 12 Apr 13 2 follow-ups, last by Joe Bennett on 15 Apr 13

1. Don't try to be perfect. Do try to be better 2. Don't use the vocabulary - the "box" and so on - with people who don't already know it. Do use the principles in you own life. 3. Don't look for...

started by Joe Bennett on 11 Apr 13 1 follow-up, last by Brian Suszek on 11 Apr 13

"Seeing an equal person as an inferior object is an act of violence, Lou. It hurts as much as a punch in the face. In fact, in many ways it hurts more. Bruises heal more quickly than emotional s...

started by Joe Bennett on 11 Apr 13 1 follow-up, last by Brian Suszek on 11 Apr 13

Awesome! I hope that I live up to these ideals, and I will continue trying until I do.

started by Joe Bennett on 11 Apr 13 1 follow-up, last by Brian Suszek on 11 Apr 13

Yes, I love Don Rheem's advice to "Rush to Curiosity". It is a tough standard to hold ourselves to, but is incredibly rewarding when we can withhold judgement.

started by Joe Bennett on 05 Apr 13 1 follow-up, last by Brian Suszek on 08 Apr 13

They seem freeing to me. Free to not necessarily do everything I feel would be ideal.

started by Joe Bennett on 14 Jun 13 2 follow-ups, last by Joe Bennett on 17 Jun 13

I like the example they use in Leadership & Self Deception to help us with this issue. They are talking about driving a car and seeing the other drivers as people - does that create an overwhelmin...

started by Joe Bennett on 13 Jun 13 2 follow-ups, last by Joe Bennett on 14 Jun 13

"We jump forward willingly, even when what is required seems difficult physically or mentally or even financially. Such willingness expresses our innately considerate and generous nature. When ou...

started by Joe Bennett on 12 Jun 13 no follow-up yet

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"Blaming or scapegoating someone always implies the claim that we would have done better in their shoes. It's a way of protesting our innocence and brightening our self-esteem." (David Cayley)

started by Joe Bennett on 12 Jun 13 no follow-up yet

Brian Suszek liked it

Our true feelings always "leak". No doubt about it.

started by Joe Bennett on 11 Jun 13 1 follow-up, last by Brian Suszek on 11 Jun 13

Brian Suszek liked it

"As long as our feelings are accusing, whatever we do will smell of accusation." (Bonds That Make Us Free)

started by Joe Bennett on 11 Jun 13 no follow-up yet

Thanks Joe. Unfortunately, I don't have the knack for quotes and quoting like you and Brian, but I do remember experiences, stories and processes. Thanks for asking us what would help this board ...

started by Joe Bennett on 10 Jun 13 3 follow-ups, last by Cassie Roth on 13 Jun 13

"There is perhaps no phenomenon which contains so much destructive feeling as moral indignation, which permits envy or hate to be acted out under the guise of virtue. The 'indignant' person has fo...

started by Joe Bennett on 10 Jun 13 no follow-up yet

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"Sooner or later you run out of excuses. Healing comes when we take extraordinary responsibility for our emotions and attitudes. Healing comes when we cease to excuse ourselves by blaming others."

started by Joe Bennett on 07 Jun 13 no follow-up yet

"People are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of them." (Epicetus)

started by Joe Bennett on 17 Jun 13 no follow-up yet