How People Respond To You - 2 views
"We tend to invite in other people the kind of mindset that we ourselves are operating from. This is why efforts to change others often can feel so frustrating: Despite efforts to do things differ...
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Justification - 1 views
"When our mindsets are outward, we are alive to and interested in other people and their objectives and needs. We see others as people we are open to helping. When our mindsets are inward, on the...
Safe? - 6 views
How safe do people feel with us? Our co-workers? Our employees? Our children? Our partners? Our siblings? Our neighbors? Our rivals? Our enemies? How safe? If you look carefully, you will see yo...
The Collaboration Mindset - 3 views
What's It Like To Work With Me? Mitch Warner - Managing Partner The Arbinger Institute - 3 views
Kyle was a regional leader for a large US telecomm. With responsibilities for operations across multiple states, he spent most of his time on the road visiting one store after another to ensure qua...
Baggage Free Communication - The Arbinger Institute - 4 views
The way people communicate is always an outgrowth of their deepest attitude, or way of being, toward each other. When people are essentially self-concerned-when they are defensive, resistant, or in...
Self-deception - 2 views
In the horrifying calculus of self-deception, the greater the pain we inflict on others, the greater the need to justify it to maintain our feelings of decency and self-worth. [Carol Tavris, Mista...
Giving Freely - 3 views
When we give freely, we feel full and complete; when we withhold, we feel small, petty, impotent, and lacking. We are meant to learn this great truth, that giving fulfills us, while withholding and...
Our Own Humanity - 4 views
Our own humanity is intimately bound up with our capacity to sense something of others' needs and feelings... We may or may not betray someone else when we do wrong by others, but we always betray ...
Self Deception - 5 views
It is important to try to appreciate how engulfing, how completely blinding self-deception is. We don't set out deliberately to mistreat or provoke others - we see them *in the first place* as dese...
My View of Myself - 4 views
My view even of myself depends on which way I see others... How others seem to me is a revelation of myself. The self cannot be pried apart from how I see and feel about others. (Bonds That Make Us...
40 Day Challenge - Day 40! - 13 views
I agree! I will definitely need to revisit (and revisit, and revisit...) I continue to struggle with "who" I need to let go so, continued evaluation is necessary. Thanks for leading this Joe!!!
40 Day Challenge - Day 32 - 6 views
You're welcome!
40 Day Challenge - Day 26 - 3 views
Sacrifices When life is difficult for us, we notice. Sometimes the only way we notice that life is hard for our other person is when they complain about it. We chalk it up to a bad attitude or g...
40 Day Challenge - Day 25 - 5 views
Encouragement The higher your expectations, the more likely your other person will fail you and cause you frustration. But if you are realistic enough to understand that your other person is huma...
40 Day Challenge - Day 21 - 5 views
Faithfulness Okay - this is an unusual word to use in a business setting. But the question for today is, how faithful are you to this process of taking responsibility, being more collaborative an...
40 Day Challenge - Day 19 - 4 views
Impossibility Much of what we have attempted to do so far may sometimes feel like it falls into the category of the impossible. "There is no way that I can reconcile with him!" or "I can't bring ...
40 Day Challenge - Day 17 - 6 views
Vulnerability Okay, this may be a tough one. But I think we see the truth of this demonstrated time and again. How vulnerable have you been with your other person? And how safe have you made the...
40 Day Challenge - Day 16 - 4 views
You cannot change your other person. As much as you may want to, you cannot play God and reach into their heart and mold them into what you want them to be. But isn't that what we spend a large p...
40 Day Challenge - Day 11 - 8 views
Go Gail, Go!