'I Cry on Tuesdays and Fridays' - The New York Times - 0 views
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‘I Cry on Tuesdays and Fridays’
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That is until the pandemic, when she ended up in the emergency room because she had a bad reaction to a drug prescribed to bring down her elevated blood pressure.
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when the hospital gave her the option of going home and monitoring herself, or staying an extra night, she chose to stay. It was the first time she had felt calm in a year.
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hough there is additional federal support to families, more Americans are vaccinated every day and job loss is not quite as dire as it was in the early days of the pandemic, unemployment claims remain higher than they were in previous economic crises
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“Despite the increased labor force participation of mothers, mothers are still having a really hard time,”
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Despite their return to the labor force, they are not having much relief at home, and by that I mean, many children are still home-schooling.
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She added that the burden of remote school has fallen disproportionately on the shoulders of mothers
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Almost every mother I have spoken to during the pandemic, no matter what their financial and family circumstances, has expressed guilt about complaining
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Lower-income parents have already been hit harder by unemployment than their higher-income and college-educated counterparts.
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“More than parental status or gender, education has been most decisive in who has lost jobs during the pandemic,”
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“Now it’s like 76 percent of moms and 94 percent of dads with college degrees,” he said. This suggests that where families could afford for one parent to step back from work to deal with domestic labor, mothers were bearing the brunt.
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While I can list these labor market statistics all day, the emotional impact of Covid-19 is ongoing, devastating and harder to quantify.
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Why Tuesdays and Fridays? On Tuesdays, her husband has a lot of meetings, and her day isn’t light either, so even though she is trading off baby care, it’s “really high octane all day.”
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It’s a matter of having kept things nominally together all week, and then you have this big letdown,”
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She said she has felt “terrified” for two years, after being anxious during her pregnancy as well, because she wanted her daughter so badly.
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Research has shown that in states where children received only remote instruction during the pandemic, mothers’ labor force participation has been lower than in those where children attended school in person.
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, there was already a gender gap in caregiving before the pandemic, and moms were more likely than dads to step back from paid work to fill any family needs.
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We can acknowledge that things could be worse, but at the same time honor the fact that our circumstances are still so far from good.