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Gary Patton

Anger Management | Ten Essentials to Consider - 0 views

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shared by Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11 - No Cached
  • Anger is healthy
  • It’s what we do with our anger that makes all the difference to the maintenance of our own health
  • Anger arousal symptoms
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  • warning to keep our mouth shut and think
  • soul solitude time will allow us to trace and track the origins of the triggers so we can understand them
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      Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
       
      My problem with Rhoberta's psychology when she points to "understanding" the roots of anger/rage as a route to healing is that it cannot produce freedom from your bondage. (I know this because I knew the emotional and spiritual roots of my rage for the full 25 years that I struggled with my it and that understanding didn't help me one bit. Only knowing "truth" can set you free. Understanding our past pain's roots doesn't produce truth or "freedom" from the pain. Only the truth that Jesus talks about at http://is.gd/NwDqOu can do that. gfp
  • trouble in relationships
  • one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves
  • We have to learn to manage incoming anger, too.
  • you may not have any boundaries
  • Anger is healthy. It is natural. It is a gift of perception, experience and biology
  • Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
     
    Anger is one of the most powerful emotions and the most challenging one to manage for most people. Some of us can't "manage" it ...at all. At best, some of us can ONLY moderate our reaction to our amygdala's response to our perception of a violation of our so-called rights. That's why Essential #1 is so crucial. (I know because I fought a losing battle with anger/rage for over 25 years until recently when I re-discovered a truth that I had forgotten as a Jesus Follower. Yeh! We're NOT perfect ...just saved as someone said.) You may enjoy my Tweet for 2011-08-27 apropos Essential #1: "A relationship can only thrive when at least one party knows when to back off!" ~ gfp '42™ gfp
  • Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
     
    Essential #1 in this article is so crucial. (I know because I fought a losing battle with anger/rage for over 25 years until recently. I have now re-discovered a truth that I had forgotten as a Jesus Follower. Yeh! We're NOT perfect ...just saved as someone said.) gfp
Gary Patton

The Art of Not Being Offended | Beyond Evangelical | The Blog of Frank Viola - 0 views

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shared by Gary Patton on 13 Mar 12 - No Cached
  • Christians will hurt your feelings. Because of the Fall, this will happen (James 3:2).
  • what you do at that moment and afterwards is going to reveal the reality of your relationship to Jesus Christ
  • God intends to use mistreatments for our good.
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  • everything that comes into our lives, whether good or evil, has first passed through the hands of a sovereign, loving God before it got to us. And He uses it all for our good.
  • Christians are the most easily offended people in the world. We should be the least.
  • The Forgotten Beatitude
  • in the eyes of the wise and discerning believer, any statement that has a defamatory tone is discredited out of the gate.
  • Gary Patton on 13 Mar 12
     
    The word "offend" in the New Testament means to trip, stumble, or fall away. Frank Viola, a Christian author and teacher uses the word here with a specific connotation. Being offended is to get so upset with someone that you hold a grudge against them or retaliate actively or passively. Hurt feelings aren't the same as being offended. Mr. Viola says: "Too often, Christians choose to be offended when their feelings get hurt. Christians are the most easily offended people in the world. We should be the least." gfp (2012-03-13)
Gary Patton

Guarding The Most Valuable Assets In Your Life - 0 views

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shared by Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11 - No Cached
  • “Our most valuable asset sits 63 feet ahead” (referring to the driver of the truck).
  • really struggling with stress and not able to get everything accomplished that I wanted to get done. As a result, I had begun putting a lot of pressure on myself to become more productive.
  • I love progress and I love getting stuff done. However, what God showed me was that people and relationships are more important.
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  • ily. My attitude so often is, “I can’t talk now. I’ve got something really important to get done!”
  • I was stunned. It occurred to me how often I do not demonstrate this in my own life, especially with my own fa
  • “I figured that God is bringing this person into my life at this moment for a reason – either for them to speak into my life or for me to speak into theirs.
  • Perhaps my biggest problem was my lack of faith.
  • online blog, www.5feet20.com
  • more faith in myself to get work done than I do in my Heavenly Father’s ability to empower me to accomplish what has to be done. Because of my displaced “faith,” I sometimes put tasks ahead of people.
  • Truth@Work
  • ), a ministry to people in the workplace.
  • www.christianroundtablegroups.com
  • Bleedership: Biblical First-Aid for Leaders.
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
       
      See what people say about Jim's book @ http://is.gd/tqIhNw gfp
  • “The way I look at it, if I honor God in conversations like these, He will take care of what needs to get done on my task list.”
  • Reflection/Discussion Questions
  • Proverbs 17:17, 18:24, 27:23-27; Matthew 7:12; Luke 6:31; John 15:13; Ephesians 6:5-9
  • Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
     
    Is work a 24/7 proposition for you? Has it become a depressing rather than fun activity? Do you not know where to turn to get off the treadmill? This short article by Jim Lang, of the Christian Business Men's Committee has some freedom-producing answers for you! gfp This
  • Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
     
    Is work a 24/7 proposition for you? Has it become a depressing rather than fun activity? Do you not know where to turn to get off the treadmill? gfp
Gary Patton

Storm Warning - 0 views

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shared by Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11 - No Cached
  • Stress is the 'new weather': We all complain about it and believe there's nothing we can do about it.
  • until the accumulation reaches a high water mark that hurts our health, damages our relationships, compromises our performance and reduces our overall sense of well-being
  • stress is the body's way of warning us something is out of kilter?
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  • Events and situations (the traffic, the deadlines, the bills, etc.), don't cause the damage; our negative reaction to these events –how we feel –do.
  • Next time you're annoyed or irritated or angry don't just talk about it, do something: Focus on the area around your heart, take a deep breath and recall a positive time in your life.
  • Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
     
    Kim Allen powerfully reminds us that we mistakenly treat dIs-stress like it's the weather. Her quickie Stress Test" is a good one. How you doing? gfp (2011-11-11)
  • Gary Patton on 30 Nov 11
     
    Take a quickie "Dis-stress Test" and learn a formula for optimizing yours! gfp
Gary Patton

Work/Life Balance Is A Myth | Fast Company - 0 views

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shared by Gary Patton on 30 Jan 12 - No Cached
  • Work/Life Balance Is A Myth
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 30 Jan 12
       
      You can defeat the myth of work-life balance by striving for "harmony" not mythical "balance" is what I've been teaching in my Stress Optimization program for over a decade! Because this so-called "new idea" is not accepted in the mainstream, you'll discover below a disclaimer saying that work-life balance as a myth "expresses the writer's view alone." Duh!
  • Doing what that guy in the photo was doing is impossible for more than a few minutes at a time.
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 30 Jan 12
       
      Working from home is the ideal way to overcome the MANY disadvantages in today's cruel marketplace of having a job-job! But, the emphasis needs to be on "working from home" ...not being a baby-sitter for your kids!
  • don’t say if no if you don’t have any leverage
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 30 Jan 12
       
      I don't agree! If no needs to be said for you to be "on purpose": Say no ...regardless of your amount of leverage! Not learning how to say "no" wisely is one of the most dis-stress life-skill lacks from which many people suffer! But, ask some questions first around your options and choices when asked to do something so you not they retain control.
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  • In practice, however, what I’ve seen is that people often invest that free time in doing more work.
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 30 Jan 12
       
      This is another problem caused often by excessive "Type 'A' Behaviour" or "Work Addiction" (workaholism). It does not detract from the wisdom of hiring others to free up time for you for re-creation and relaxation.
  • Their identity is rooted in work, and that’s where they want to be. Outside of work, in the complex dance of family and community responsibilities, they lose their autonomy. Their professional expertise doesn’t mean much.
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 30 Jan 12
       
      This is not a "faulty-assumption" about the work-life myth because these kinds of so-called leaders are sick and need help ...as a psycologist or psyciatrist would agree.
  • We need better ways to manage work-life boundaries, understanding that we are subject to phases, often dictated by events out of our control, in which our work lives and personal lives ebb and flow in their demands.
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 30 Jan 12
       
      This is why I coach my clients that the key is to seek harmony, not perfection, in the context of a clear and written "life purpose" which promotes direction, focus and the context for "saying no"!
  • Shore up the home front
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 30 Jan 12
       
      Don't be social. Be relevant in all your key relationships! Your family and friends are what life is all about. And major de-stressors for you when you practise harmony in this area as well.
  • f you feel overworked to the point that you complain about it constantly
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 30 Jan 12
       
      This again results from the lack of a clear purpose and harmony in fulfilling it. Alternatievly, it may be greed which also is the lack of a reasonable life purpose because there's a lot more to life than more money! How many do you think on their death bed will share: "Gee, I wish I'd spent more time at the office!" Duh!!
  • Say “no” strategically
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 30 Jan 12
       
      As I said above, it's impossible to say know wisely if you're unclear about your life purpose!
  • Quit complaining
  • Take control instead
    • Gary Patton
      Gary Patton on 31 Jan 12
       
      You'll discover a helpful, short article on the benefits of having a mentor to help you develop a meaningful purpose statement for you and/or overcome the barriers blocking your harmony at http://is.gd/FCpmbl.
  • Gary Patton on 30 Jan 12
     
    Here's how you can defeat the myth of work-life balance!
Gary Patton

You Do Affect Those Around You ...Discover the Power of Love & Hate - 0 views

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shared by Gary Patton on 21 Jun 12 - No Cached
  • Finding Social and Global Coherence
  • We are learning much more about how and why our presence, and especially our moods and emotions can affect others and how we can sense how others are feeling. Our mere presence can help others feel better and more comfortable, or ill at ease and anxious.
  • Most people understand that certain people in our lives can have a profound influence on us:
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  • the boy was not petting or interacting with dog
  • he horse’s heart-rhythm pattern, or HRV coherence, shifted to a more ordered pattern
  • esearchers were able to detect synchronization between a mother’s brainwaves (EEG) and her baby’s heartbeats (ECG). The pair were not in physical contact
  • "Of the many new scientific perspectives that emerged from the 20th century, one of the most profound is that the universe is wholly and enduringly interconnected and coherent. Complex living systems, including human beings, are composed of numerous dynamic, interconnected networks of biological structures and processes."
  • Gary Patton on 21 Jun 12
     
    "You Do Affect Those Around You!" Here's a lay person's explanation of the science behind how and why we affect others with our moods. gfp (2012-06-21
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What Are the 6 Types of Stress and How to Manage Them? - 0 views

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shared by ayudapsicologica on 18 Jun 25 - No Cached
  • ayudapsicologica on 18 Jun 25
     
    This Spanish article provides us with a very useful guide to better understand something we all experience: stress. I find it especially valuable that it not only identifies the different types, but also helps us recognize when stress can be beneficial and when it becomes problematic. What strikes me most is the concept of positive stress that motivates us and drives us to grow. We often think of stress as something completely negative, but this article reminds us that a certain level of stress can be our ally in facing challenges and achieving goals. The general strategies it proposes are practical and accessible: from relaxation techniques to the importance of setting boundaries. I find the emphasis on seeking professional support when stress begins to significantly affect our well-being to be fundamental. An essential read for anyone looking to better understand their relationship with stress and develop effective tools to manage it.
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