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You get upset when your routine is disturbed

Routine has the potential to be quite good. It can create powerful habits that lead to effectiveness over a long period of time. However, routine equally has the power to be bad. Taken to extreme, routine becomes complacency.

Running on autopilot is great if you’re a pilot, but it’s a bad idea if you’re a leader. Instead, find yourself copilots who can shoulder the burden with you.

I quickly realised that I couldn’t change what I didn’t notice, and my critical, negative approach was something that was so ingrained in me that I didn’t even know it was there. The humbling experience of asking others for help, to let me know when I was engaging in destructive behaviour, was the second step

I began to express appreciation in ways that I had never done before. Rather than pointing out the one thing that wasn’t perfect, I found the many things that my team members were doing well and let them know how much I appreciated their hard work and their levels of excellence.

Fourth, I stopped talking in terms of “me” and started talking in terms of “we” when it came to success

Unleash the strengths and the positive energy of others around you by emphasising and building on employees’ strengths Use deliberate communications to help connect day to day work with a higher purpose that has meaning for your employees Praise your employees for specific positive things that they have done Take time to encourage your employees and support them when times are stressful Offer to help out to ease the load when someone is struggling Keep a gratitude log of all of the positive things you are grateful for Call or send personalised notes of gratitude on Thanksgiving, New Year’s and employees’ birthdays Be compassionate Practice forgiveness with yourself and others And, most importantly, take care of yourself, manage your own stress and energy, so that you can be a positive force each and every day no matter what happens around you

Negotiating or catering to the demands of someone does nothing to change their behavior over the long-term and only works against you.

3. Set and maintain boundaries

Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and respect, but that doesn’t mean you should be a doormat for them.

4. Seek help if needed

Don’t hesitate to ask your manager to help address the problem.