"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure." - Benjamin Franklin - 3 views

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  #1 cuttingedge - on 26 Nov 08

   

  I love this quote! I just posted it on a business site and realized it's wisdom in many
  other areas... like conscious communications!
  How can we, as people that highly value relationships, help to ensure long term success?
  I think it's a great idea to head off problems before they happen.
  How? Let's brainstorm together... I'll start with a few ideas to discuss.
  
  1. List with your friend every possible thing that you can see that could be a possible problem...
  then list potential solutions. (you can even list them in this forum so others can help with ideas)
  It's far better to have pre-planned policies IN WRITING that you both agree to follow when emotions interfere and rational thought becomes hard to make clear.
  
  2. Agree with your friend(s) that you will spend one hour per week 'airing out' even the tiniest things that may fester into bigger things. Remember that if there is a conflict then it is mutual regardless of whose fault it is.
  
  3. The reason why courts of law favor things documented or in writing over 'memory':
  Misconception of the facts compared to what you 'think' they are. It's proven that the human mind restructures memories (generally to it's advantage ) and can't tell the difference between the reality and the restructured memory of the reality. All that you have to do to prove this to yourself is to first write down everything that you think you spend the most time on each day and then actually track what you really spend time on each day. It's inevitably enlightening, you'll be surprised at the results!
  One friend may say "I do the dishes all of the time" and the other may say "you're being picky, you do not". Solution: write it down and track it to enlighten both people. It just takes a second to jot things down.

   

  <div class="cArrow"> </div><div class="cContentInner">I love this quote! I just posted it on a business site and realized it's wisdom in many <br /> other areas... like conscious communications! <br /> How can we, as people that highly value relationships, help to ensure long term success? <br /> I think it's a great idea to head off problems before they happen. <br /> How? Let's brainstorm together... I'll start with a few ideas to discuss. <br /> <br /> 1. List with your friend every possible thing that you can see that could be a possible problem... <br /> then list potential solutions. (you can even list them in this forum so others can help with ideas) <br /> It's far better to have pre-planned policies IN WRITING that you both agree to follow when emotions interfere and rational thought becomes hard to make clear. <br /> <br /> 2. Agree with your friend(s) that you will spend one hour per week 'airing out' even the tiniest things that may fester into bigger things. Remember that if there is a conflict then it is mutual regardless of whose fault it is. <br /> <br /> 3. The reason why courts of law favor things documented or in writing over 'memory': <br /> Misconception of the facts compared to what you 'think' they are. It's proven that the human mind restructures memories (generally to it's advantage ) and can't tell the difference between the reality and the restructured memory of the reality. All that you have to do to prove this to yourself is to first write down everything that you think you spend the most time on each day and then actually track what you really spend time on each day. It's inevitably enlightening, you'll be surprised at the results! <br /> One friend may say "I do the dishes all of the time" and the other may say "you're being picky, you do not". Solution: write it down and track it to enlighten both people. It just takes a second to jot things down.</div>

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