The Effects of Self-Betrayal - 7 views
1. To take up a hard, resentful attitude toward others is to have to live in a resented world, a world full of people who oppose and threaten us. How they are in our eyes is reflective of how we a...
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1. To take up a hard, resentful attitude toward others is to have to live in a resented world, a world full of people who oppose and threaten us. How they are in our eyes is reflective of how we a...
"When we are caught up in it, we accuse others so as to excuse ourselves, and that makes it a judgmental way of being. We grasp at evidence that others are wrong and we are right, and that makes i...
Where's your focus: 1. On others impact on you? or 2. Your impact on others? Think in the 4 directions of your work - Customer, Co-worker, Employee & Manager. If we are going to move the needle o...
"Our opinions of the world and others are confessions of our characters." (adapted, Ralph Waldo Emerson)
"Try to see the good in people (especially those with whom we disagree): People who prefer to believe the worst of others will breed war and persecutions while the world lasts" (Dorothy L. Sayers)
"In the moment we cease resisting others, we're out of the box - liberated from self-justifying thoughts and feelings. This is why the way out of the box is always right before our eyes - because ...
"Something we were withholding made us weak, until we found it was ourselves." (Robert Frost)
"Don't worry about what others think about you; worry about what they think of themselves when they're with you." (Hilary Weeks)
We all have the same problem.
This is hard to do. You keep seeing what you want to see instead of being objective. Definitely will need to keep working on this.
Challenging and beautiful!
"The more we can find our way to the out-of-the-box vantage points within us, the more readily we will be able to shine the light on the in-the-box justifications we are carrying." (Leadership & Se...
Great idea - I think I will as well.
True, true, true...
"The question for you as the leader is whether you are going to create an environment that is as enjoyable for your people as it is for you - a place that they are as excited about and devoted to a...
"Don't give up on anybody ... or leave anybody out ... My continuing passion is to part a curtain, that invisible veil of indifference that falls between us and that blinds us to each other's pres...
"You can spend your whole life building a wall of facts between you and anything real." (C. Palahniuk)
When we see another as a real person, we are not prone to making assessments and judgments - it is best described as uncritical receptivity. There is no agenda (and therefore no control or coercion...
Without opening ourselves to another's humanity, we cannot get ourselves emotionally unstuck no matter how we might try. We cannot do it by denying or repressing our feelings or by willing ourselve...