When children feel safe, their exploratory system or innate curiosity is activated and they need support (either verbally or non-verbally) for exploration;
As they are exploring, sometimes they need their parents to watch over them, sometimes they need help, and sometimes they need their parents to enjoy with them;
When they have explored long enough, (or if they get tired or anxious, or find themselves in an unsafe situation) they need their parents to welcome them back. When they return, they need their parents to comfort, protect, delight in, and/or organize their feelings. We focus on the last piece because for many of the parents it is a new idea that children need help organizing their internal experience as well as the external environment.
When the attachment system is terminated, children are ready to start the circle again.