Why do you think that people who deal with the dead are "untouchables" (in some countries) when death is such a natural occurrence? Do you think the dead should be treated with as much respect as those who are still alive, or even more? And why do you think the western world has such an aversion to death when it's something completely natural?

Self absorbed/ Egoism. I thought it was interesting when he was talking about how the common thing between unsuccessful people is that they supposedly talk about themselves all the time. It's interesting that he is talking about how those people just talk about themselves, and that's why people don't like them. Growing up, I always learned to tell other people my wants or needs because if I didn't say anything, than I would be ignored and my needs wouldn't be acknowledged. This is a different perspective that I've never heard about. My mother would always tell me something along the lines of, "If you don't ask, you will not receive" and something like, "I can't read your mind, you know." So she always encouraged me to say something, and if I didn't, she'd say something along the lines of, "You're missing out because you didn't say anything". Of course, I think it's true, now that Fry said it. People don't like other people who are demanding and want things of other people, especially when it imposes or causes problems. But, on the other hand, those are also the people who get their way because they know what they want and so they proclaim it so others know what they want as well. Fry also talks about how other people want to be around you because you radiate an aura that focuses on other people, which I believe is very true, though it does have an essence of falsehood. These are also the people that get walked on and taken advantage of; going to back to the initial subject, how are these people successful? People who get taken advantage of and walked on are typically low cast because they can't help themselves and always give to other people. I think it's a balance between the two that makes a person successful. But it's interesting to see Fry's opinion on the matter though I do think he is slightly wrong.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/bystander-effect
This link is linked to Psychology today, and it basically tells what David McRaney said. It explains what the bystander effect is and what the illusion of transparency and what plural ignorance is. This page also has links going that explain what a bystander things and the mind set, as well as telling you how to beat the bystander effect and how to speak up. The other links also have examples and studies that were performed to support the article on the page.