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Maelani Parker

United Families - Divorce - 0 views

  • Society's cavalier attitude towards marriage and divorce is not a positive phenomenon and has perpetuated a cycle of failed marriages and a lengthy list of associated social problems detrimental to children and to adults
  • nto the divorce culture, notions of same-sex marriage, or any form of contemporary sexual liberation. We must regenerate a culture that understand the significance of marriage and in so doing give our children back their lives and their most basic human right — their mother and father bound together in a faithful marriage covenant.
  • “Divorce can be deceptive — legally it is a single event but psychologically it is a chain, sometimes a never ending chain, of events, relocations and radically shifting relationships strung through time, a process that forever changes the lives of people involved
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  • “A culture of divorce soothes children with antidepressants, consoles them with storybooks on divorce and watches over their lives from family court.”
  • “It does not take a village to raise a child. It takes loving, responsible parents, two of them, together for the duration.”
  • divorce negatively impacts husbands, wives and children
  • By almost every measure, children of divorce fare worse than their peers in intact families. The children of divorce are more likely to engage in behaviors that lead to higher rates of crime, drug use, child abuse, poor educational performance, higher incidence of behavioral, emotional, physical, and psychiatric problems. Such behavior set in motion a downward cycle of dysfunctional behavior and despair that compounds those problems for their own children and future generations of children. Because of divorce, increasing numbers of children live in economic insecurity and disadvantage, including fragile and unstable family households.
  • Mounting evidence in social science journals demonstrates that the devastating physical, emotional and financial effects that divorce has on children can last well into adulthood and affect future generations
  • The devastation children feel on the heels of their parents' divorce is similar to the way they feel when a parent suddenly dies
  • Divorce changes the very nature of childhood
  • Divorce can sever the crucial bond between a child and one or both of his or her parents. And tragically, divorce has brought about a mass exodus of fathers away from close association with their children.
  • The family comprises the scaffolding upon which children mount successive developmental stages, from infancy to adolescence. It supports their psychological, physical, and emotional ascent into maturity. When that structure collapses, the child is left impoverished, both economically and emotionally
  • research has shown that a child is better off if the parents resolve their differences and the family remains together, even if the long-term relationship is less than perfect
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    This family not only shows the negative results of divorce for children, but it also emphasizes the importance of the opposite. Marriage is shown to be fundamental for children. This fall sunder the categories of divorce and home environment and exposure.
Maelani Parker

Divorce And How It Affects A Child - 0 views

  • There is much controversy about how divorce affects children. Many studies show that, to a child, divorce is equivalent to the pain of the death of the parent. There is a great loss, with grief and sadness, and confusion for the children. Children most always believe that they are the cause of the divorce. They think that the parent who left, actually left them or left because of them and that the parent doesn't love them anymore. Often the parents are so consumed in their own grief or turmoil that they fail to see the devastating effects of the breakup on the children.
  • Divorce affects children adversely in many ways. Children of divorce have more difficulty in school, more behavior problems, they often have low self esteem and think they are worthless and bad, more problems with peers and more trouble getting along with their parents.
  • Divorce can adversely affect a child, from their behavior, school, employment, relationships, and future marriage.
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  • Studies regarding teenage and adult females, parental divorce has been associated with lower self esteem, promiscuity and greater delinquent behaviors, as well as, difficulty maintaining long-term relationships. Girls experience the emotional loss of the father directly and personally. They believe it is a direct rejection of them. Many girls attribute this rejection to not being pretty enough, affectionate enough, athletic enough, smart enough, etc.
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    This article exemplifies a summary of the broad effects that divorce and breakdown of the family unit can have on the children of those families. These effects are primarily emotional, however they are proving to carry on into most, if not all, crucial aspects of their lives.
Maelani Parker

Why Married Parents Are Important for Children « For Your Marriage - 0 views

  • Society no longer assumes that married parents are the norm. At the same time, social science research has confirmed the wisdom and value of traditional practice. Children do better when raised by their married mother and father.
  • The three most significant reasons children are raised without their married mother and father are unwed pregnancy, cohabitation, and divorce
  • Children raised in intact married families: are more likely to attend college are physically and emotionally healthier are less likely to be physically or sexually abused are less likely to use drugs or alcohol and to commit delinquent behaviors have a decreased risk of divorcing when they get married are less likely to become pregnant/impregnate someone as a teenage
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  • A child whose mother cohabits with a man other than the childís father is 33 times more likely to suffer serious physical child abuse
  • Children receive gender specific support from having a mother and a fathe
  • A child living with a single mother is 14 times more likely to suffer serious physical abuse than is a child living with married biological parents
  • In married families, about one- third of adolescents are sexually active. For teenagers in stepfamilies, cohabiting households, divorced families, and those with single unwed parents, the percentage rises above one-half
  • Children of so- called “good divorces” fare worse emotionally than children who grew up in an unhappy but “low-conflict” marriag
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    This article asks questions regarding marital status of the parents and how that relates to the children and the choices they will make.This relates to home environment and divorce and well as education.
Maelani Parker

John W. Whitehead: The Breakdown of the Traditional Family - 0 views

  • According to the National Center for Health Statistics, the number of unmarried-couple households with children has risen to more than 1.7 million -- up from under 200,000 in 1970. Moreover, there are 9.8 million single mothers versus 1.8 million single fathers.
  • nearly 40 percent of all U.S. children are now born out of wedlock.
  • Thus, it stands to reason that without stable families, we can have no hope of producing self-reliant, responsible citizens.
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  • Since 1974, about 1 million children per year have seen their parents divorce -- and children who are exposed to divorce are two to three times more likely than their peers in intact marriages to suffer from serious social or psychological pathologies. In their book Growing Up with a Single Parent: What Hurts, What Helps, sociologists Sara McLanahan and Gary Sandefur found that 31% of adolescents with divorced parents dropped out of high school, compared to 13% of children from intact families. They also concluded that 33% of adolescent girls whose parents divorced became teen mothers, compared to 11% of girls from continuously married families. And McLanahan and her colleagues have found that 11% of boys who come from divorced families end up spending time in prison before the age of 32, compared to 5% of boys who come from intact homes. ... Sociologist Paul Amato estimates that if the United States enjoyed the same level of family stability today as it did in 1960, the nation would have 750,000 fewer children repeating grades, 1.2 million fewer school suspensions, approximately 500,000 fewer acts of teenage delinquency, about 600,000 fewer kids receiving therapy, and approximately 70,000 fewer suicides every year.
  • The solution, if there is one, is to be found where the problems start: with each man, woman and child taking responsibility for keeping their family together
  • look around at what's left of our neighborhoods, our communities and our families, and put our children first.
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    In this article I am focusing only on the things I have highlighted. I am simply exploring different areas in which the decline of the traditional family structure is having an effect on us as a whole, us as individuals, and us as a future nation.
Maelani Parker

When parents fight, their children suffer - 0 views

  • When parents argue in front of children, it is one of the most stressful events of childhood
  • Frequent, intense and poorly resolved conflict is related to higher levels of children’s problems
  • Negative emotions spill over to relationships with children. Anger in one relationship will be a stimulus for anger and irritability in other close relationships. When parents argue with each other, they are more likely to become angry, irritating or controlling toward their children
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  • Marital fights often lead to distraction and depression in the parents. They become less effective in dealing with their children. Parents become absorbed in their marital problems and are unable to concentrate as much on their parenting practices. They have less energy, focus and patience with their children and their issues
  • Teens feel less secure and more anxious when they are aware that their parents aren’t getting along. They fear that one parent will leave the family to avoid the repetitive arguments. They also think friction with their parents is more personally threatening when they see their parents constantly fighting
  • In homes with little strife, children are optimistic about getting along. They are more flexible, adaptive, and more open-minded and constructive in their approaches to problem solving. They are more open in their communications.
  • Children from high conflict homes have a harder time learning to control their emotions. They are more prone to anger and violence. They may use a high conflict style to resolve problems with their peers, siblings or later in life when they become parents themselves
  • Loyalties become confused
  • parents set the stage for manipulation and divided loyalties within the family.
  • They may avoid being home, spend more time with their friends or even try using alcohol or drugs to keep from thinking about their quarreling parents. School performance also suffers
  • Does all of this suggest that fighting parents should divorce for the sake of the children? No. The evidence is that divorce itself – independent of parental conflict, style of parenting or even earlier problems by children – has a negative impact in children’s lives.
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    This article shows how children suffer when their parents argue. Relationships and loyalties within the family suffer. This falls under divorce and home environment.
Maelani Parker

Parents' Depression and Stress Leaves Lasting Mark on Children's DNA - The Daily Beast - 0 views

  • maternal depression to children’s mental and physical illness as well as language and cognitive deficits
  • shown that when the parents’ marriage is riven by conflict children grow up to be emotionally insecure and have difficulty forming loving adult relationships
  • nd found that when parents are under significant stress their kids are more likely to have behavior problems, to have difficulty handling stress, and to be at greater risk for mental illness
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  • when parents are under emotional, financial, or other forms of stress, it can alter their children’s patterns of genetic activity at least through adolescence and perhaps longe
  • And since some of the altered genes shape brain development, the effects of parental stress might permanently wire themselves into children’s brain
  • Child abuse and even maternal depression, studies show, can do to people what neglectful rat mothers did to their pups: silence the stress-hormone receptor in the brain. In the brains of people who were abused as children and later took their own lives, the gene for the stress-hormone receptor is more likely to be “off” than it is in people who did not commit suicide or were not abused, found a 2009 study.
  • they found that mom’s high stress during the children’s infancy altered 139 genes, while dad’s stress during the children’s pre-school years altered 31 genes.
  • although mothers’ stress affected both daughters and sons equally, fathers’ stress had more effect on daughters than sons.
  • when dad is emotionally or physically absent, girls tend to enter puberty earlier and develop difficult temperaments
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    This article presents the belief that the stressful state of parents can alter their children's DNA. Emotional stress in the home can be devastating for children and have long and lasting effects. This applies to my section on divorce and possibly home environment and exposure.
Maelani Parker

Parental Depression Affects 15 Million Kids - 0 views

  • Depressed pregnant women may be less likely to get prenatal care
  • Depressed moms may be less attentive or less able to respond in a healthy way to their babies' needs.
  • Parental depression has been linked to children's early signs of, or vulnerability to, having a more "difficult" temperament, including more negativity, less happiness, poorer social skills, more vulnerability to depression, more self blame, less self-worth, and a less effective response system to stress.
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  • Older children and teens may experience stress from a depressed parent
  • "Early in life, we worry most that somehow the fundamental bond between the mother and father and the infant may be weakened because of depression
  • "A little later on, when children are older, parents are vitally important in providing structure, order, encouragement, support, helping with school, helping with friendships, and those processes tend to be disrupted when a parent is depressed,"
  • depression in fathers also has an impact on their children
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    This article focuses on depression. Mothers who are depressed when they are pregnant have a hard time bonding with their children. This falls under the category of home environment and exposure.
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