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"Step 1: Face Facts "This is the toughest one," said White. "And it can happen a little at a time or all at once." For White, it was the realization that his leg "wasn't growing back. That I wasn't a starfish." Step 2: Choose Life This step differentiates those who remain victims, and those who do not - "those who could imagine a positive life, that my life is more than my body, perhaps, more than this date," said White. "If you make yourself about the date, you'll get stuck in that date. In fact, one of the number one signs of victimhood is living in the past," he said. Step 3: Reach Out "You're tempted when you're bummed out and you're going through trauma to start to sink, to isolate, to go into a shell. But isolation will surely kill you," said White. "And we need people. You can't survive alone. No one survives alone. It's up to survivors as well that they need to do the reach-out, and hopefully there are also people reaching out back." Step 4: Get Moving As White recovered in an Israeli hospital, a nurse was going to let him go to the cafeteria for the first time. He got into a wheelchair.  "And the nurse, she looked down at me and left," he said. White's advice: If you want to move, push. "No one's going to do your recovery for you. No one's going to actually make you better. It's your life," he said. Step 5: Give Back"

""And now, weak, short of breath, my once-firm muscles melted away by cancer, I find my thoughts, increasingly, not on the supernatural or spiritual, but on what is meant by living a good and worthwhile life - achieving a sense of peace within oneself. I find my thoughts drifting to the Sabbath, the day of rest, the seventh day of the week, and perhaps the seventh day of one's life as well, when one can feel that one's work is done, and one may, in good conscience, rest.""