The paradox of control: Individuals who scramble to control or dominate or manipulate one another in order to get what they think they want, are in reality giving themselves over to another's control. They allow others to determine their happiness. And... "The paradox of vengefulness is that it makes us dependent upon those who have harmed us, believing that our release from pain will come only when our tormentors suffer." (adapted, Laura Hillenbrand)
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"The paradox of vengefulness is that it makes us dependent upon those who have harmed us, believing that our release from pain will come only when our tormentors suffer." (adapted, Laura Hillenbrand)