1. There are two Way of Being - the out-of-the-box way where we see others as people, and the in-the-box way where we see others as objects.
2. Way of Being is deeper and more important than behavior.
3. When we betray ourselves, we enter the box (i.e., we become self-deceived)
4. In the box, we see others and ourselves in ways that justify our own self-betrayals.
5. Over a lifetime of self-betrayal, we develop characteristic self-justifying ways of seeing ourselves and the world; we carry our "boxes" with us.
6. In the box, we provoke others to get in the box as well, and the mistreatment we then get from others gives us justification for staying in the box.
2. Way of Being is deeper and more important than behavior.
3. When we betray ourselves, we enter the box (i.e., we become self-deceived)
4. In the box, we see others and ourselves in ways that justify our own self-betrayals.
5. Over a lifetime of self-betrayal, we develop characteristic self-justifying ways of seeing ourselves and the world; we carry our "boxes" with us.
6. In the box, we provoke others to get in the box as well, and the mistreatment we then get from others gives us justification for staying in the box.