What happens when you begin to focus on someone's outside triangles? Perhaps a quote from G.K. Chesterton -
"How much larger your life would be if your self could become smaller in it; if you could really look at other men with common curiosity and pleasure; if you could see them walking as they are in their sunny selfishness and their virile indifference! You would begin to be interested in them, because they are not interested in you. You would break out of this tiny and tawdry theater in which your own little plot is always played, and you would find yourself under a freer sky, in a street full of splendid strangers."
"How much larger your life would be if your self could become smaller in it; if you could really look at other men with common curiosity and pleasure; if you could see them walking as they are in their sunny selfishness and their virile indifference! You would begin to be interested in them, because they are not interested in you. You would break out of this tiny and tawdry theater in which your own little plot is always played, and you would find yourself under a freer sky, in a street full of splendid strangers."