It doesn't take long to discover that your other person will not always motivate you to be a responsive person. Many times they may actually de-motivate you.
Although moods and emotions can create all kinds of motivational targets, one motivation is certain to stay in the same place all the time. When "doing the right thing" is your motivation for being a responsive person, your ability to be that person is virtually guaranteed.
Is your other person fairly hard to live with lately? Is his/her slowness at getting over a disagreement wearing on your patience? Don't withhold your responsiveness just because he/she is not acting the way you think they should. You have a higher vision than that.
When you're not motivated to do it for him or her, do it because it is the right thing to do!
Today's Challenge: Before you see your other person today, think about them by name and think about their needs. Whether it comes easy for you or not, say "I enjoy being with you.", then express that joy in some tangible way. What a privilege it is to be able to give this responsiveness to another!
When complete: 1. How will this change of motivation affect your relationship and reactions? 2. What does this inspire you to do? 3. What does it inspire you to stop doing?
It doesn't take long to discover that your other person will not always motivate you to be a responsive person. Many times they may actually de-motivate you.
Although moods and emotions can create all kinds of motivational targets, one motivation is certain to stay in the same place all the time. When "doing the right thing" is your motivation for being a responsive person, your ability to be that person is virtually guaranteed.
Is your other person fairly hard to live with lately? Is his/her slowness at getting over a disagreement wearing on your patience? Don't withhold your responsiveness just because he/she is not acting the way you think they should. You have a higher vision than that.
When you're not motivated to do it for him or her, do it because it is the right thing to do!
Today's Challenge:
Before you see your other person today, think about them by name and think about their needs. Whether it comes easy for you or not, say "I enjoy being with you.", then express that joy in some tangible way. What a privilege it is to be able to give this responsiveness to another!
When complete:
1. How will this change of motivation affect your relationship and reactions?
2. What does this inspire you to do?
3. What does it inspire you to stop doing?