Whether we like it or not conflict in relationships is going to happen. When we are in relationship with one another we are not only in relationship with their strengths, hopes & dreams, but also their imperfections and weaknesses. Today's challenge is not about eliminating those inevitable disagreements, but instead it is about dealing with conflict in such a way that you come out healthier on the other side.
Both of you. Together.
The wisest way to learn how to disagree agreeably is to establish some healthy rules of engagement. These could include things like: 1. We will not bring up old, unrelated items from the past. 2. We will never fight in public or in front of co-workers (or perhaps your children) 3. We will call a time out if the conflict escalates to a damaging level. 4. I will listen first before speaking 5. I will speak gently and keep my voice down.
Today's Challenge: Talk with your other person about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your other person is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to "fight" by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.
When complete: 1. If your other person participated with you, what was their response? 2. What rules did you write for yourself?
Whether we like it or not conflict in relationships is going to happen. When we are in relationship with one another we are not only in relationship with their strengths, hopes & dreams, but also their imperfections and weaknesses. Today's challenge is not about eliminating those inevitable disagreements, but instead it is about dealing with conflict in such a way that you come out healthier on the other side.
Both of you. Together.
The wisest way to learn how to disagree agreeably is to establish some healthy rules of engagement. These could include things like:
1. We will not bring up old, unrelated items from the past.
2. We will never fight in public or in front of co-workers (or perhaps your children)
3. We will call a time out if the conflict escalates to a damaging level.
4. I will listen first before speaking
5. I will speak gently and keep my voice down.
Today's Challenge:
Talk with your other person about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your other person is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to "fight" by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.
When complete:
1. If your other person participated with you, what was their response?
2. What rules did you write for yourself?