My Sex Life is Public, No I Won't Have Sex With You | Postmodern Woman - 2 views
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Personal boundaries are the limits we create to identify “what are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave around us and how we will respond when someone steps outside those limits.” Privacy is “freedom from unauthorised intrusion”.
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Strong boundaries ensure that we take care of our own emotional needs and are responsible for our own actions, whilst simultaneously NOT taking care of or being responsible for others’ emotional needs, and actions.
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privacy too often shields us from having to actively define our boundaries – since we are rarely allowed to speak about what we feel is inappropriate and have no need to practice setting them
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Conventions of privacy often facilitate abuse and oppression; they shame people – especially women – into silence.
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that makes me feel far safer than abiding by a poorly defined, often disregarded, generalised standard of privacy
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Once I was even told that simply by speaking about sex and multiple partner relationships, I was ‘asking for it.’
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Our assumptions are our responsibility. Our actions due to our assumptions are also our responsibility.
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Part of having strong boundaries is that I do not assume responsibility for their assumptions, emotions or actions.