Posted by qwip at 10:18 AM on July juicy couture outlet uk - 0 views
started by lifew0715 on 28 Apr 14
started by lifew0715 on 28 Apr 14
started by lifew0715 on 28 Apr 14
started by lifew0715 on 28 Apr 14
Full background:We all live in chicago(Cook county).There are several different issues going on here, so i'll try to tackle the whole store in order.
Several years ago, my wife moved to nyc and let her sister(Jessica, from here on)Use some of the furnature that she wasn't taking with her.It was never jessica's to keep, and my wife made that clear.My wife had a storage space that her father was letting her use, and she sold some of her furnature(The pieces that jessica didn't want to use).All in all, my wife let jessica borrow about $900 in furnature.
A year and a half ago, my wife was driving jessica's car and scratched it against another car(Small scratch, no damage to other car).At the time, i said very clearly that get an estimate as soon as possible and get it to me and that i wanted to get this taken care of asap, and that we would reach an agreement that we're all happy with.
My wife and i spent six months abroad after we got married.Jessica said that she would be fine with holding onto the dress until we got back.We had a lot of options of places to store it(My parents, my wife's parents, friends who said they would, et cetera).
Two weeks ago we called jessica and said that because we are back in chicago and about to move into a new apartment, we are going to need our furnature back.Jessica informed us that it was hers now, and that some of it she had bolted down in her daughter's room, and some of it she had given or thrown away when she decided she no longer needed it.
Yesterday night i called jessica and said that i would like to schedule pickup of the dress.She told us that she wouldn't give the dress to us until we payed her for the car.She had waited a year and a half, and there is some rust now, so the estimate is a lot more than it would have been otherwise.We told her that we're happy to talk to her about the car an reach an agreement that takes everything into consideration, but not while she is holding the wedding dress hostage and using it as leverage.
Jessica is not backing down at all.Unless we capitulate with her demands, she will not give us the dress back.This isn't the first time she has used the tactic with family.We don't feel we can"Reward"This behavior by giving in and paying her off to get what is undeniably our property back from her.
Any advice on this situation is welcome. here
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From this perspective, you might consider just leaving her with the dress, furniture, and scratch in her car and move on with your lives.It is just not worth the agravation that will come from any resolution with the sister, as she has nothing to lose and everything to gain when you capitulate.
Walk away and consider it a life lesson and don't lend or deal with said sister again until she comes to you with no strings attached(Which is likely never, so be prepared for that).
Sorry this is happening to you and your wife, but i don't think you are going to be able to force a fair conclusion.If it works out for you two, you will have a bitter and resentful sister in law to deal with for the rest of your lives.If it works out for your sister in law, you two will harbour an immense amount of hostility towards her.
So, again, walk away.You'll likely be glad it only cost $900 in furniture and a wedding dress(Minus what you would have paid for the car)To escape her manipulations.
Posted by qwip at 10:18 AM on July juicy couture outlet uk 27, 2008 [10 favorites]
Your leverage depends entirely on how badly your wife wants the dress back.If she can live without it, then walk away.If she can't, then she's got you over a barrel, and you'll have to pay her off.In either case, you are probably better off not maintaining close ties to this person.And, no matter how badly you need it, don't ever ask her for or give anything to her ever again, no matter how small.
Posted by deadmessenger at 10:21 AM on July 27, 2008
I agree with qwip.What is at stake just doesn't seem worth a lifetime of aggravation from your sil.Just never deal with her again.
Posted by violetk at 10:22 AM on July 27, 2008
What a crappy situation to be in.I would suck up the cost of the furniture, but i would definitely try to get the dress back.Hell, just call the cops on her and have them come to her door.If she wants to go ahead and file a claim about the scratch on her car, let her and just deal with that situation then.
Posted by marydellamorte at 10:23 AM on July 27, 2008
It seems as if you are looking for a legal answer.If thats the case, take her to small claims court in ny.I doubt you want to do that though, since this is family.
If i were you, i'd just write her a letter(Way better than phone calls because you have time to remember everything, write it down, with backup, and you can take as long as you want to write it so that your emotional side doesnt come out).Tell her what you are willing to give her, and what she should give you.Tell her anything else is unacceptable.End the letter.
If she doesn't agree or doesnt comply.Oh well.You're out $900 of furniture(Which you never should have given a person who has a history of extortion/blackmail/strong arming.You should have taken the car to get an estimate yourself and gotten it fixed.Why should she have to deal with the hassle of the estimate, getting it fixed, etc because your wife scratched the car?Thats kinda inconsiderate of you.
Regarding the wedding dress:Its basically a memento.Its a reminder of the wedding, your love, blah blah.Your wife sure as heck isn't going to wear it.Best case scenario, it would remain in your closet in a translucent bag.You should look at it as"Its just something we want to exist".Since its just going to exist, and you both aren't going to sit down on a friday night and count the frills on it, let her keep it.You'll get it back unless she's a total bitch and burns it.I only see this, if she has done something like this in the past(I don't think she has).You'll get the dress back.Just don't act like its gone forever.Why, again, did you let her keep the dress when you had other options?Seriously.You need to think through your decisions next time.
So yeah.Thats that.Good luck.Next time, think things through before you carry a snake in your pocket.
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