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We are members one of another, connected to each other... And just for that reason, we become most ourselves when we are most true to one another. We become most right with ourselves when we are mo...
Gail - thank you for adding to our knowledge about self-deception. Glad to see you on the forum!
started by Joe Bennett on 27 Jan 14
2 follow-ups, last by Joe Bennett on 27 Mar 14
"The truth that matters is not that others have mistreated me - perhaps they have ... The truth that matters is that I have mistreated others." (C. Terry Warner)
"The simple, clean truth about ourselves has more therapeutic power than any psychological theory ... No self-proclaimed human authority will serve you better than your own straightforward sense of...
"There can be no surer proof of a confirmed pride than a belief that one is sufficiently humble." (C.S. Lewis)
"To admit our errors or weaknesses (in an honest, sincere way) can bring us liberation and strength. It will seem ironic to say this, for facing up to the truth is usually what we most fear to do....
When you guys set that up, can I come too? But seriously, what a powerful statement about how we see others (and ourselves).
started by Joe Bennett on 09 Oct 13
3 follow-ups, last by Harold Wright on 10 Oct 13
"You can spend your whole life building a wall of facts between you and anything real." (C. Palahniuk)
When we betray ourselves and shift responsibility onto others by means of our accusing thoughts and feelings, we believe it is their mistreatment of us that leads us to accuse them. This is the sel...
How easy it is to blind ourselves to our own wrongdoing by pointing to the wrongdoing of others. (C. Terry Warner, Bonds That Make Us Free)
It is simply futile to try to change another if we do so in a critical spirit, even a mild one. Generally speaking, we influence others most profoundly when we do not seek to change them at all, bu...
Without opening ourselves to another's humanity, we cannot get ourselves emotionally unstuck no matter how we might try. We cannot do it by denying or repressing our feelings or by willing ourselve...
When we see another as a real person, we are not prone to making assessments and judgments - it is best described as uncritical receptivity. There is no agenda (and therefore no control or coercion...
How easy it is to blind ourselves to our own wrongdoing by pointing to the wrongdoing of others. (C. Terry Warner, Bonds That Make Us Free)
Become a responsive person. Be influenced by the reality of other people. The rest will be wonderful. You do not do it conditionally -- not to try to change others -- you do it because you love, un...
In the world of human affairs, the will to dominate, even for apparently good reasons, nullifies itself. 'Every force', says the Tao te Ching, 'calls forth a counter-force.' But love is a power unm...
What appears to be sheer selfishness, malice, or even abusiveness from the outside is on the inside deep insecurity, deep worry, and deep fear. (C. Terry Warner)
Might I be in the wrong? ...Just to ask the question seriously, even without answering it, is already to undergo a change of attitude. (C. Terry Warner, Bonds That Make Us Free, p. 197)
To the degree that our negative, afflicted attitudes and emotions are accusing and self-excusing, we are responsible for them, and to that very degree we can stop indulging in them. (C. Terry Warner)
