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Cheating Manual? I Thought So Too! - 0 views

When I first stumbled at the "Handbook of Cheating" I blurted "Is this real? Well my first impression was it was some kind of a cheating manual for cheating spouses on how not to be caught doing th...

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BPS Research Digest: The new science of "Phew!" - 0 views

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Roughly half the group described a "near-miss" kind of relief - rather like fearing that you've locked yourself out and then realising that you haven't. The other half described a kind of "task-completion" relief, in which a negative experience had come to an end.
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near-miss relief was associated with having more thoughts about how much worse things could have been and feeling more socially isolated
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xcessive rumination can be harmful to close relationships. Experience of task-completion relief, by contrast, was associated with more thoughts about how things could have been even better.
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"Experiencing near-miss relief could increase the likelihood that people will act to avert an unfavourable fate in the future" Sweeny and Vohs said. "In contrast, task-completion relief allows people to focus on the positive emotional experience with minimal distraction from downward counterfactual thoughts. This process might reinforce satisfaction in the completion of a job well done ... and therefore increase the likelihood that people will repeat the unpleasant experience."
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It's better to complete a scary task than to have the sense of relief of a "near miss"

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The Rules of Friendship - Basic Etiquette to Follow - 0 views

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shared by Bruno Deshayes on 26 Sep 13 - No Cached

Bruno Deshayes on 26 Sep 13

Don't you hate people who come across with a hidden agenda? What about those who give you an earful of their problems like if they never spoke to anybody for a year? Making good and reliable friends is not an overnight process. It is also a two-way street. Can you think of anybody who could benefit from your friendship?

<div class="cArrow"> </div><div class="cContentInner">Don't you hate people who come across with a hidden agenda? What about those who give you an earful of their problems like if they never spoke to anybody for a year? Making good and reliable friends is not an overnight process. It is also a two-way street. Can you think of anybody who could benefit from your friendship?</div>

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The Quiet Theory of Influence - 1 views

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How Termites Inspired Mick Pearce's Green Buildings | Design | GreenBiz.com - 0 views

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"Mick Pearce is an African architect who has tried to change that model, demonstrating his ideas in two signature buildings, the Eastgate Building in Harare, Zimbabwe, and the Council House 2 Building in Melbourne, Australia. Both buildings employ common-sense passive systems for climate control based on gradients, and both were inspired by the work of a tiny insect, the termite". This kind of design may be a great influence not in the energy saving only, but in the relationship and behavior of the people too. How is to work in such a designed workspace?

<div class="cArrow"> </div><div class="cContentInner">"Mick Pearce is an African architect who has tried to change that model, demonstrating his ideas in two signature buildings, the Eastgate Building in Harare, Zimbabwe, and the Council House 2 Building in Melbourne, Australia. Both buildings employ common-sense passive systems for climate control based on gradients, and both were inspired by the work of a tiny insect, the termite". This kind of design may be a great influence not in the energy saving only, but in the relationship and behavior of the people too. How is to work in such a designed workspace?</div>

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Admiring celebrities can help improve self-esteem - 0 views

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I'm Sorry, I Don't Know, I Can't … | ThinkSimpleNow.com - 1 views

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Do you find yourself saying the words I’m sorry or I don’t know often? Did you know that this over-sighted language pattern is actually limiting our potential to happiness and ultimately getting what we want?
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If our conscious mind is indeed “in control” as we believe, then why do we sign up for gym memberships after new years and never go? Why it is that even after we’ve decided on something we really want (like a new hobby), we fail to take action on it?
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While our conscious mind is the captain of our ship, our unconscious mind is the guys in the engine room, making the ship run. The ship moves because of the work done by these engine room guys. They listen to the commands from the captain, without question. They are exceptional at taking commands and executing them. Since the conscious mind has limited capacity and can only become aware of a very limited set of information, our unconscious mind only surfaces what we consider important. How does the unconscious mind know what’s important? It doesn’t. The unconscious mind determines this based on the frequency of commands it receives of the same topic from the conscious mind.
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Each time we have a conscious thought, or we verbalize words aloud, or see a scene in our imagination, it gets fed into our unconscious mind. Like a command from the captain, whether it is our intention or not, the command gets executed in some form; it leaves an impression on the unconscious mind.
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At times, even for the smallest decision, we would shrug and say “I dunno”. Why? Because it’s an easy answer. We don’t have to think.
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I recommend we reserve the words I’m sorry to situations when we really mean it, and need it to express our genuine feelings.
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There is a difference between truly not knowing something and believing that you don’t know something. There’s also the connotation that you do not have the ability to decide or to learn something new. These words are repeated so causally that we start to rely on them out of laziness and habit.
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if we repeatedly say I’m sorry each time we reply to emails after 2 days, then we’ve programmed ourselves to feel guilt whenever we do not respond to emails immediately.
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Replace “I don’t know” when making a decision with an alternative phrase. Come up with a list of such alternatives. Here are some ideas: “Give me a moment, I have not decided yet.” “Let me think about it.” “I am evaluating my options.” “Hmmm. Let me see…” Action: List out the options and their pros and cons.
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Being indecisive sends a similar message to the people around you. We tend to trust and rely on people who are decisive. It is a character strength; especially in business.
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What we repeatedly do becomes our habits. And if we make a habit out of indecisiveness on small decisions, how will we react when we need to make important decisions in life, in business, or in relationships?
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Consider the following scenario: Person A: “Where is the salt?” Person B: “On the kitchen shelf.” Person A: “I don’t see it.” Person B walks to where person A is standing, reaches over where person A is looking, and pulls out the salt bottle. It was right in front of person A. Have you been in such a scenario? I certainly have. Did person A truly not see the salt? Or did person A believe that she did not see the salt? Bingo!
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Remember that our unconscious mind takes commands directly from our words? When we tell ourselves that we do not see something, we are passing the message to our unconscious mind in the form of a command. It proceeds accordingly and makes a note to stop passing anymore messages to the conscious mind when salt bottles are seen. Isn’t that funny?
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When you want to say “I don’t remember where I put the keys?”, rephrase the question to “If I could remember, what would they be?”
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Instead of saying “I don’t know how to.”, rephrase to “I have not learned how to do that yet, but I can learn.“
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When we say I can’t do something, we’ve just declared impossibility as a definite answer. We are telling ourselves that we will never be able to do it, because we lack the necessary capabilities.
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By saying we can’t do something, we are suggesting that we do not have the ability to learn, that we have given up, that we lack the potential that other gifted humans possess.
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By saying we don’t have the time, we are impressing upon ourselves that we are very busy, making us feel important. It is an illusion. Yes, we may have a very full schedule, but when we say we don’t have time, it usually means that we just don’t want to do it. Not having enough time is an excuse. If it was important enough, we’d find the time
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For starters, you don’t have to do anything! You know that. The world will not come to an end if you don’t do something (in most cases). We feel like we have to for one of two reasons: It brings you pleasure/benefit. ie. Something you enjoy doing. It reduces pain. ie. Losing a job or friendship, or an excuse not to do something else.
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We are in control of our lives, and instead of saying I have to, replace it with I want to, or I am doing something because here are the benefits it brings me.
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If you don’t want to do something, instead of giving people excuses starting with “I’d love to but, I have to…“, just gracefully say “Thanks for the invite, but I am resting at home tonight.” Or “Thank you. I have plans tonight. Maybe next time.
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Partners sculpt each other to achieve their ideal selves: If successful, relationship g... - 0 views

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Great site to make your sex life better and more enjoyable.

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What the science of human nature can teach us : The New Yorker - 0 views

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How the new sciences of human nature can help make sense of a life.

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How Long to Form a Habit? | PsyBlog - 0 views

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shared by nat bas on 11 Oct 09 - Cached

When the researchers examined the different habits, many of the participants showed a curved relationship between practice and automaticity of the form depicted below (solid line). On average a plateau in automaticity was reached after 66 days. In other words it had become as much of a habit as it was ever going to become. This graph shows that early practice was rewarded with greater increases in automaticity and gains tailed off as participants reached their maximum automaticity for that behaviour. Although the average was 66 days, there was marked variation in how long habits took to form, anywhere from 18 days up to 254 days in the habits examined in this study. As you'd imagine, drinking a daily glass of water became automatic very quickly but doing 50 sit-ups before breakfast required more dedication (above, dotted lines). The researchers also noted that: Missing a single day did not reduce the chance of forming a habit. A sub-group took much longer than the others to form their habits, perhaps suggesting some people are 'habit-resistant'. Other types of habits may well take much longer.
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nat bas on 11 Oct 09

it takes two months on average to form a habit

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An online tool for administering and scoring the PROQ3 questionnaire is available here A full list of other questionnaires and marking instructions can be found in the questionnaires section.

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Effectively Seize Cheating Partner - 1 views

I am in a relationship for two years. My husband and I were okay until such time that he turned out cold to me and I could not point out the reason why he acted that way. He came home late at night...

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In the modern world, ego is on the rise and values are on decline, which is the reason why relationships have become so fragile. As a result, we have seen so many marriages and love affairs having a really bad fate, with people parting on unfriendly notes.

<div class="cArrow"> </div><div class="cContentInner">In the modern world, ego is on the rise and values are on decline, which is the reason why relationships have become so fragile. As a result, we have seen so many marriages and love affairs having a really bad fate, with people parting on unfriendly notes.</div>

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Knowing the Narcissist : HG Tudor ‹ Reader - WordPress.com - 0 views

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I loved you. I loved you with passion, desire, attentiveness, excitement, mystery and kindness. All created from the morass of information that I had gathered about you which was layered onto my existing experience from previous relationships and my knowledge of how love operates in the world. I know that it worked. You fell for me hook, line and sinker and you became enveloped in my creation where you flourished, you shone and you bloomed. Your happiness radiated from you like sunbeams, the pleasure you took in us being together was tangible and all of those around us commented as such. It was marvellous, spectacular, wonderful and perfect.
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You had no idea that my love was a creation. Why would you when not only did it match your concept of love but driven by my excellence it exceeded it? Why would you challenge something that felt so golden and so glorious? You would not. I gave you this love and you returned it. It was a match made in heaven. It was a transaction that suited us both. You received my scintillating synthetic love and you gave me the love that sustains me, that emotion infused reaction which powers and sustains me. We both were winners.
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When I took you in my arms, shielding you from the black day that you had emerged from and you looked into my eyes and saw the love, the devotion and the optimism that burned there, did it really matter that I was mirroring what you showed me so long as it made you happy, elated and feel loved?
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When I unleashed my hatred you could not and still do not understand how someone could treat you like that when that person kept saying that he loved you.
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It was easy to switch to this vicious malevolence. It was easy to peel back the veneer that was the manufactured love. It was easy to switch off the creation that I made that provided you with this perfect love. A flick of a switch and he ceased to exist, leaving you with something else instead. I did not lie when I said that I loved you. I did not lie when I whispered that I loved you. I did not lie when I shouted that I loved you. I just did not tell you the truth. The truth that I never felt love for you. Because I cannot do that.
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Interview with Dr. Paul Scheele - Pioneer Of Paraliminal Hypnosis - 0 views

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In this fascinating interview, Dr. Paul Scheele CEO of Scheele Learning Systems, explains that by activating the rich resources within the mind, it is possible to achieve phenomenal results in relationships, work, money and health. In this insightful interview, he shares his inspiring hypnosis journey - which starts off with how he came to run the oldest hypnosis practice in Minneapolis at only 19, and the life-changing epiphany that followed. You'll also discover how this realization inspired him to develop Paraliminal hypnosis to help people uncover their inner resources for success by communicating with both sides of the brain simultaneously. Curious to discover more about Paraliminal Hypnosis Technology and how you can use it to improve all areas of your life? Listen to this powerful interview at HypnosisTrainingAcademy.com now...

<div class="cArrow"> </div><div class="cContentInner">In this fascinating interview, Dr. Paul Scheele CEO of Scheele Learning Systems, explains that by activating the rich resources within the mind, it is possible to achieve phenomenal results in relationships, work, money and health. In this insightful interview, he shares his inspiring hypnosis journey - which starts off with how he came to run the oldest hypnosis practice in Minneapolis at only 19, and the life-changing epiphany that followed. You'll also discover how this realization inspired him to develop Paraliminal hypnosis to help people uncover their inner resources for success by communicating with both sides of the brain simultaneously. Curious to discover more about Paraliminal Hypnosis Technology and how you can use it to improve all areas of your life? Listen to this powerful interview at HypnosisTrainingAcademy.com now...</div>

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