This isn’t to say that in any given case, the misandry and misogyny are necessarily equivalent. Sometimes they are, other times one or the other definitely predominates. But they’re always paired. Often they’re just an unspoken assumption, something people are taking for granted as axiomatic. The problem is that it’s possible to question one half of an unspoken assumption without even really examining the other half.
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Ozy's Law | No, Seriously, What About Teh Menz? - 0 views
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you get women who (rightly) complain about the wage gap without seeing how men are made into “success objects”. You get men who complain about the stupid-manchild-husband trope in media, without seeing that it always comes with the humorless-killjoy-wife trope. You get people unable to see past their own sense of grievance to look at how the system that’s hurting them is hurting other people.
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Feminism has been having this problem for a while, and is only starting to engage with it. More and more feminists are realizing that men’s issues have gone undiscussed for a long time, and are too intricately bound up in women’s issues to be ignored any longer. This is evidenced by, for example, the existence of this blog and the many incoming links to it from prominent feminist spaces. I think that’s a good trend and one to encourage, especially given how, if we’re taking Ozy’s Law as true, most feminism has been effectively blind in one eye. A lot of ugly stuff and a lot of pain has gone unnoticed by a movement dedicated to unpacking and examining the stuff that used to go unnoticed. That’s not good, but at least it’s starting to change.
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It is impossible to form a stereotype about either of the two primary genders without simultaneously forming a concurrent and complementary stereotype about the other.
Or, more simply: Misandry mirrors misogyny.
Hen: Sweden's new gender neutral pronoun causes controversy. - Slate Magazine - 0 views
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Ironically, in the effort to free Swedish children from so-called normative behavior, gender-neutral proponents are also subjecting them to a whole set of new rules and new norms as certain forms of play become taboo, language becomes regulated, and children's interactions and attitudes are closely observed by teachers. One Swedish school got rid of its toy cars because boys "gender-coded" them and ascribed the cars higher status than other toys. Another preschool removed "free playtime" from its schedule because, as a pedagogue at the school put it, when children play freely "stereotypical gender patterns are born and cemented. In free play there is hierarchy, exclusion, and the seed to bullying." And so every detail of children's interactions gets micromanaged by concerned adults, who end up problematizing minute aspects of children's lives, from how they form friendships to what games they play and what songs they sing.
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. In a recent interview for Vice magazine, Jan Guillou, one of Sweden's most well-known authors, referred to proponents of hen as "feminist activists who want to destroy our language." Other critics believe it can be psychologically and socially damaging, especially for children. Elise Claeson, a columnist and a former equality expert at the Swedish Confederation of Professions, has said that young children can become confused by the suggestion that there is a third, "in-between" gender at a time when their brains and bodies are developing. Adults should not interrupt children's discovery of their gender and sexuality, argues Claeson. She told the Swedish daily, Dagens Nyheter, that "gender ideologues" have managed to change the curriculum to establish that schools should actively counter gender roles.
"How Much Should Sex Matter?" by Peter Singer and Agata Sagan | Project Syndicate - 0 views
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wherever homosexual relationships are lawful, the obstacles to gay and lesbian marriage would vanish if the state did not require the spouses to state their sex. The same would apply to adoption.
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one may wonder whether it is really necessary for us to ask people as often as we do what sex they are. On the Internet, we frequently interact with people without knowing their gender. Some people place high value on controlling what information about them is made public, so why do we force them, in so many situations, to say if they are male or female?
Is the desire for such information a residue of an era in which women were excluded from a wide range of roles and positions, and thus denied the privileges that go with them? Perhaps eliminating the occasions on which this question is asked for no good reason would not only make life easier for those who can't be squeezed into strict categories, but would also help to reduce inequality for women. It could also prevent injustices that occasionally arise for men, for example, in the provision of parental leave.
Barbara Kay: Women are not always the 'gentler sex' | Full Comment | National Post - 0 views
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McGill professor of Social Work Myriam Denov, who did her Phd thesis on female sex offenders, notes, as recently as 1984, a study proclaimed that “pedophilia does not exist at all in women.”
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According to a 2004 U.S. Department of Education mass study of university students, 57% of students reporting child sexual abuse cited a male offender, and 42% reported a female offender. Interestingly, 65% of the survivors of female abuse who opened up to a therapist, doctor or other professional were not believed on their first disclosure. Overall, 86% of those who tried to tell anyone at all about their experience were not believed.
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According to a 1996 report from the National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect (NCCAN), about 25% of child sexual abuse is committed by women, but that figure may be low, because survivors are far more conflicted and shamed in admitting abuse by their mothers than by fathers.
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Most rapists were subjected to some form of sexual abuse in childhood. A startling amount is perpetrated by females. Peer-reviewed studies conclude that between 60-80% of "rapists, sex offenders and sexually aggressive men" were sexually abused by a female.
Miss Representation: A Review | the kent ridge common - 0 views
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the thing that unsettles me most about Miss Representation is its glaring lack of sufficient representation for women of color, women with disabilities, and women of less privilege than the well-to-do upper-middle class CEOs, politicians, and celebrities that we see on screen. As professors and students alike pointed out in the panel discussion after the film, one can’t help but wonder if this approach is entirely too self-defeating. While the film’s aim is to point out the misrepresentation of women in the media, does it misrepresent women in the process of doing so?
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The staggering statistics about how much of the media industry is owned and controlled by men and how lacking the industry is in gender equality is equally shocking.
The Absurd Myths Porn Teaches Us About Sex | | AlterNet - 0 views
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Young people who have learned about sex from watching porn have a treasure trove of sadly mistaken beliefs and misconceptions about sexuality.
Why Feminism Is Wrong About Patriarchy by Typhon Blue « Quiet Riot Girl - 0 views
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concept called ‘apexuality’. She says that ‘apexuals’, who I think she conceptualises as ‘male-bodied’, are people who achieve power in hierarchies. And, contrary to feminism’s patriarchy 1.0 theory she says these apexuals do not achieve power based on their commonalities with other men, but rather by distinguishing themselves from them. The search for ‘uniqueness’ is a key part of the search for power. And ‘apexuals’ have to sacrifice their ‘maleness’ as an identity in order to achieve high status roles.
So feminists ideas about men working together as a kind of ‘team’ are rejected by typhon’s analysis.
I agree with her, if I have understood her correctly. I think we live in very ‘individualistic’ times.
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I think some women gain power by invoking their ‘femininity’. I think Margaret Thatcher did, and Princess Diana, and say, Dolly Parton. I’m sure they trod on a few female toes to get where they did, too.
'Sexist trousers' spark Twitter row - Telegraph - 0 views
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Madhouse, a nationwide chain of discount men's clothing stores, was branded "shameful" and "outrageous" by hundreds of Twitter users yesterday, because of the label's washing instructions to 'Give it to your woman'.
The beige pair of chinos in question were purchased in London at Madhouse's flagship Oxford Street store last month.
The incident shows the power of Twitter to embarrass companies which make such gaffes. Last year, Topman was forced to apologise and remove a range of t-shirts from shelves after Twitter users said they were sexist.
One t-shirt said: "Nice new girlfriend - what breed is she?"
Vanessa Truskey, a publicity executive, commenting on the Madhouse trouser label, tweeted: "Lately I can't tell which decade I'm living in. What brand are those trousers?! I can only assume that's a joke."
Photos of Attractive Female Job Seekers Stir Up HR Jealousy - Bradley J. Ruffle - Harva... - 0 views
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In companies that advertised job openings, good-looking females (as judged by a panel we assembled) received 6% fewer callbacks than plain-looking females and 23% fewer than women without pictures. The beauty "penalty" was much smaller and less significant when it came to employment agencies, perhaps because the women screening CVs wouldn't have had to work side-by-side with the candidates.
In both the hiring companies and the agencies, screeners reacted favorably to pictures of attractive-looking men, giving these candidates significantly more callbacks than plain-looking men and males who didn't attach photos. This male beauty premium did not come as a surprise in light of the large body of psychological research showing that attractive people are generally viewed positively along numerous dimensions. They're believed to be happier, healthier, more intelligent, luckier in marriage, and so on. Thus the responses to the CV photos of attractive women really stand out and tell us a lot about the screeners' biases.
In The Company Of Men - Anna Arrowsmith's Myths About Porn « Guardian Watch - 0 views
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The fact porn films sometimes require performances from men that can perceived to be misogynistic does not necessarily mean that the films, or the actors, are misogynistic themselves. In fact, most of the individuals involved are usually aware that they are putting on a performance that must be understood within friendly parentheses.’
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even leaving aside for one moment the huge markets that include M/m porn, F/m ‘dominatrix’ porn and mixed-sex ‘gang bangs’ (which you cannot categorise as ‘gay’ or ‘straight’), heterosexual porn is often ALL ABOUT THE MEN. And, even taking it on its own, with men in dominant positions, the male stars are still the objects of the camera’s gaze. And other men look at them!
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guys watching porn today expect to see male performers who reflect their own metrosexual preoccupations. More than that, I think many young men expect that male porn actor’s bodies should give them visual pleasure. (Deen complains that he gets hate mail from men – who frequently tell him he ‘needs to work out’.)
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The gender agenda in world politics - 0 views
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A significant role for women in policy-making allows diversity in the foreign policy landscape by recognising and integrating softer developmental concerns as well as their participation in peacemaking and security agendas. Advocacy of these policies must not be the exclusive purview of female leaders - it must be the responsibility of all policy-makers, irrespective of gender.
The Naked Muse « Quiet Riot Girl - 0 views
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‘As a female poet, I have noticed over the years that male poets are often described in terms of being the romantic hero, dark, handsome, wild, notoriously philandering and accompanied by beautiful (young) female muses to “inspire” his creativity; the same “rule” does not apply to women. So, what if one is a female creator? If desire, and the object of desire and beauty are creative catalysts, then why do we not see that same poetic stereotype?
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Instead, the woman poet tends to just have the “mad” bit stuck to her rather than bad or dangerous to know!
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in these metrosexy times, whilst men are the objects of many a picture, it is probably worth examining this subject matter closely. Because metrosexual imagery is often very bland and samey. To be considered 'objects of desire' men have to have big tits and nice hair and svelt figures - oh, pretty much like women then.
And, even in the 21st century, there are still not enough women working as photographers and film directors, making the images of men and women and people who identify as neither, that saturate our culture.
Internalised Misandry « Guardian Watch - 0 views
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On one level this astounded me that a man would come out with such blatant misandry. On another I was sort of impressed that he was so blunt. It is just about preferable reading his version of the dangers of ‘masculinity culture’ to that of some feminist academics I featured here a while back. They tried to couch their hatred in ‘science’ and ‘data’.
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And where there is misandry there is often misogyny too. This line stood out for me:
‘Kelly Brook’s existence diminishes, just a little, say, Judith Butler’s.’
Does it? I wonder what Kelly Brook and her family and friends think about that, not to mention Judith Butler herself.
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When feminists accuse women of hating other women they often use the term 'internalised misogyny' as if the forces of our 'patriarchal' culture are passed into our psyches. I looked for 'internalised misandry' online, as this could be seen as an example, and I was met with the question:
'Did you mean: internalised misogyny?'
http://en.wiktionary.org/w/index.php?title=Special%3ASearch&search=internalised+misandry
No. I didn't.
When men aspire to have balls bigger than our brains, we get what we deserve | Stuart J... - 0 views
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It's difficult to be a man with a brain bigger than his balls in this country when the prevailing male culture is predisposed to have the inverse ratio. We are desperate, increasingly so, to break with the morons who denigrate our sex in roughly the same way that Kelly Brook's existence diminishes, just a little, say, Judith Butler's. We look at the magazines targeting fellow men and wonder: what kind of sickness would make anyone want to emulate the washboard stomach of Men's Health's cover twit of the month? What kind of man gets his rocks off to a glum-faced model with a boob job and an expression that says "I lost my soul watching Desperate Scousewives". Who but a lobotomised follower of luxury capitalism might treat GQ or FHM as style bibles, still less buy them?
Why Are Men So Violent? | Psychology Today - 0 views
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To reduce male violence, it is not sufficient to reform men, as the defenders of the male warrior hypothesis recommend. Nor will it suffice to empower women. This will reduce domestic violence, but not war, because women can be as aggressive as men. Warfare did not decline precipitously with women's suffrage, and during recent conflicts with Russia, 43 percent of Chechen suicide bombers have been women. Crucially, we must reduce the incentives for violence.
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biological contributions to violence may be greatly outweighed by the sociological.
Nature, nurture and liberal values | Prospect Magazine - 0 views
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If we follow the evolutionary biologists, therefore, we may find ourselves pushed towards accepting that traits often attributed to culture may be part of our genetic inheritance, and therefore not as changeable as many might have hoped: gender differences, intelligence, belligerence, and so on through all the characteristics that people have wished, for whatever reason, to rescue from destiny and refashion as choice.
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culture is an adaptation, which exists because it conferred a reproductive advantage on our hunter-gatherer ancestors. According to this view many of the diverse customs that the standard social science model attributes to nurture are local variations of attributes acquired 70 or more millennia ago, during the Pleistocene age, and now (like other evolutionary adaptations) "hard-wired in the brain." But if this is so, cultural characteristics may not be as plastic as the social scientists suggest. There are features of the human condition, such as gender roles, that people have believed to be cultural and therefore changeable. But if culture is an aspect of nature, "cultural" does not mean "changeable." Maybe these controversial features of human culture are part of the genetic endowment of human kind.
Short People « Quiet Riot Girl - 0 views
The teen sex sleepover: Why so squeamish, mom and dad? - The Globe and Mail - 0 views
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Dutch teenagers are far less likely to become pregnant or contract an STD, and far more likely to use contraception than their American counterparts.
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as Americans "dramatize" teen sexuality into an opera of raging hormones and dueling sexes - boys who want to "get laid" and emotionally vulnerable girls - their kids are forced to sneak around. Dutch parents, meanwhile, have "normalized" the issue: They accept that their kids are having sex and might actually be doing it in loving relationships.
Ruth and I were constantly asked to serve on "how to" panels for undergraduate women. "How to be a female professional," "How to have a husband and profession," "How to be a professional woman with children," etc. … I remember one panel at which a student asked: "But how can you be assertive, direct and professional and still have the men in the department like you?" [Ruth answered:] "You can't. Whether you smile and bring them coffee, or you demand to be treated equally, they will not like you. So my only advice is to speak your mind, be yourself, and be professional"… Ruth was a constant supporter of every woman faculty member who got in trouble because of her ideas ….[She] gave us hope that things could change.